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I don't want a new friend!

*kicks dirt*

There's this acquaintance that lives around the corner from me. She's a friend of my BFF. Since she moved around the corner, I've carpooled her kids on occasion. Here recently, her dad has become ill and she's called me to help her out with a couple of things. I don't mind.

However, now she wants to talk to me like all the time, like we are BFFs. I just don't want to put the effort into it. Not only that, she's in a debbie downer time in her life right now and I just don't need to be put down anymore. I'm having a hard enough time with myself as it is.

Basically I don't want to be her friend.

I'm a horrible person.

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Re: I don't want a new friend!

  • You are helping her out occasionally - doesnt mean that you need to be her friend. There is nothing wrong with that.

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  • Sorry it feels like she's pushing her problems onto you, I know you have a mess of things to deal with on your own, so I don't blame you for not wanting to take on any else's issues. 

    It sounds like she is just looking for someone to vent to and you are a convenient ear for her at the moment.  Maybe you could mention something to your BFF?  Let her know that her friend sounds like she could use a little more support?   Maybe that will lessen the load on you and she is already friends with your BFF, so maybe she won't have a problem being more supportive to the debbie downer.

     

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  • imagecharitylynne_1979:

    You are helping her out occasionally - doesnt mean that you need to be her friend. There is nothing wrong with that.

    This. It's a rough place to be in....:::hugs:::

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  • Just make sure to set boundaries.  Tell her no every once in awhile when you need to.  She'll understand you have your own life. 
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  • imageSLouWE:
    Just make sure to set boundaries.  Tell her no every once in awhile when you need to.  She'll understand you have your own life. 

     

    Yes

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