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Stressed out newlyweds
We are newlyweds, 6 months now, and my husband is currently out of a job. We decided it would be best for him to finish up his marketing busniesss degree and look for a real career. He's been out of school since August, looking, networking and interviewing. He's had some good leads but nothing yet. He's bored, frustrated, etc. I have been working my butt off at a nonprofit that I love and that pays our bills, however I am getting exhausted. I come home to him being moody and unhappy. I feel like I have to work to cheer him up when I'd like to be pampered and worried about. I know this won't be like this forever but it's so hard since it is our first year. Any advice on things to do, for free 
, to cheer him up or make thigns easier on us both as we are both stressed! Thanks!
Re: Stressed out newlyweds
That really sucks. Being without jobs blows.
I am not sure about specific things in your area that may be free, but you should look into local entertainment circulars and see what there is in your area.
Also, you could go on a picnic or something outdoors (if weather is decent in your area). Or just get some of his favorite snacks and picnic at home with a favorite movie, etc.
If he is having major mood issues due to the job issue, which anyone would, he should look into counseling. There are lots of free or sliding scale counselors avaiable.
I'm 100% behind the note idea.
Note stuck between pages of his favorite textbook: "Never made it as a wise man."
Note in his wallet: "I couldn't cut it as a poor man stealing."
Note on his glasses: "Tired of living like a blind man."
Note on the light switch: "I'm sick of sight without a sense of feeling."
Both my H and I are in jobs that we like but don't absolutely love. However, while we work to pay the bills we're also looking for other opportunities. Yes, minimum wage jobs aren't ideal but they may keep him busy.
As far as free things go: Like PP said, it depends on your area. In Detroit, the Detroit Institute of Art (DIA) is free to the public the first Sunday of every month or something like that and I've heard of other deals at other places that are similar. Ask around for anything that's free.
Best of luck in him finding a job soon, and hopefully things will be brighter in your marriage
I'm a newlywed (4 months) and my husband is in a job that he HATES, so I understand where you are coming from. He comes home in a bad mood many nights. I like my job.
Suggest counseling or a career counselor. Maybe he can volunteer doing something he'd enjoy - maybe working with animals or as a big brother.
It's hard to have fun on a budget, but you can go for bike rides, ice skating, $1 movies, museums... Look for things that are happening in a big town near you. Our city has stuff going on the first Friday of every month.
I hope he finds a job that he wants soon. It's hard; I know. I work in HR. Keep encouraging him and try to endure. Best of luck!