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Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Morning!
Good morning everyone! I'm in work early this morning... lots to do that i need to fit around a training session and 1 hr meeting today and still get out by 5.30 at the latest... just so I get to spend more than 30 minutes with N this evening!
QOTD: For the mothers out there, how do you prioritise baby time and work? More specifically, are you happy at the way you have to split yourself between home and work?
Re: Morning!
QOTD: I'm finding it really hard at the moment with N and work. I'm really busy in work and because of my position I can't just leave when I've done my 8 hours. This week and last are particularly bad - yesterday wasn't the first time I only saw N for 30 mins before her bedtime...
I suppose what it really boils down to is that I didn't chose to have kids just to see them for such a short amount of time each day - I want to raise children, not just add to the world's population... anyone can do that...
Just having a hard time at the moment though I'm hoping it will get a little better next week once this deadline passes...
Just fighting with the computer and trying to figure out why it wont let me install any new software...grrrrrr.
QOTD: DD goes to a nanny lady for 4 hours everyday. I work only a little bit at the moment, so that works, but if I start working more, we will have to increase her hours to 6. I?m not willing to go to 8 because like you said, I want to raise my child, not just add to the world?s population. I think finding that happy medium is a difficult thing, but for right now what we have works for us. But that said, DH works a lot more hours than I do and frequently only sees her in the morning before he goes to work.
Morning!
QOTD: We have a nanny who comes 3 hours 2-3 mornings a week (every other week 2, every other week 3) so I can work on my dissertation. I also teach English one evening a week and translate for some regular clients. Right now it's working out well that I'm at home pretty much all of the time except for teaching, and for that DH comes home a bit earlier than normal on Tuesdays so I can go teach. DH, on the other hand, regularly goes a couple of days during the week without seeing DD at all, and I really hate that.
My arrangement is only possible because of the scholarship I have, though. It will last another 2, possibly 3, years, and then I'll have to really think things through. At his present job, DH earns enough for us to get by, but not enough for us to indulge in a few luxuries or pay for regular tickets back to the US. My scholarship goes towards flights, unplanned expenses like fixing the car, and savings.
When I think of how things will be when I'm finished with my PhD and/or the scholarship is over, I'd ideally like to do freelance translating from home and teach a couple of English classes on the side. At the beginning I probably wouldn't have too many clients, so I would be able to spend more time with the kid(s), and as they grow older, my business would hopefully grow bigger and I could spend more time working, but still be around the house. No clue if that will actually work, though.
Morning! I have some more cleaning around the house to do. Should figure out what is for dinner. Just finished nursing LittleGirl. In the span of 12 hours she's managed to spit up on two sets of my clothes. At least it's laundry day.
QOTD: I'm still on maternity leave so no issue right now. Couple more weeks and it's back to the grindstone. Thankfully DH and I both work on base, and the kids will be at the same daycare. Minimizes our driving time. What's hard for me is getting dinner on the table. I'll probably just simplify the meals as much as possible, even do prep work the night before, to make it easier.
For me I know that it's temporary. I'll only work 2 or 2-1/2 months and then we move back Stateside where I do not have a job waiting for me. We're still not sure if I will go back to work, but at the very least I'll be waiting a bit. DH goes straight to work and I get to take care of "everything else" - new furniture, some house renovations, find a preschool, deal with parents who want to visit to see their grandkids and try to schedule them for a good time vs totally inconvenient, unpack our household items that are coming in multiple shipments, and add about a hundred other little things.
One way I prioritize is by knowing when to throw in the towel on other things. If we carpool but DH's work keeps him late then I just get dinner on base. At least I am spending time with the kids. Or if I have a bad day then at some point I just say "screw it" and call delivery. Have the number in my phone and our default order memorized. Sometimes the laundry doesn't get put away on time, the dishes washed until the next day, etc. Those things can wait if needed but our infant has to get fed and our toddler needs our attention to get to bed on time.
Morning!
QOTD: No kids, can't help ya.
Good morning! Wahoo, I just made morning with 10 minutes to spare
Not much planned today, but the sun is shining! I can't wait to go for a walk!
QOTD: I just started maternity leave, and fully intend on taking my 3 years. But during that time and after, I really hope to work with DH in his business. There are lots of things I can do that would free DH up for different things with the business, but it would afford me the freedom to be around for our kid(s). I currently am not planning on ever going back to my old job. But, I also know that working with DH every day could pose its own unique challenges!
Good afternoon! I started working at the library full time last week and was a bit nervous but it's been sooooo slow that I really don't need to worry. things will pick up when the school year starts again.
QOTD: No kids yet, but this is a great question seeing as DH and I have been discussing this a lot lately. He thinks I should work after kids but I really don't want to. His mom worked, and he also worries that I'll be too closed in/attached to the kids/helicopter mom...etc. Whereas my mom stayed home with us and really made a great home (albeit she was a bit helicopter-ish). It's going to be a tough call since finally having two salaries is really making a difference for us.
What's a helicopter mom?
Always hovering over her kids ready to swoop in at a moment's notice (at least that's how I interpret it). I heard it on a talk show once, but it was more about teenagers and mom's making their college decisions for them.