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Poll: Encouraging Strangers at the Gym
Re: Poll: Encouraging Strangers at the Gym
I'm a southerner and I said the same thing. I just find that most people want to blend in at the gym if anything and most people are focused on themselves.
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It depends on the person and the situation. I'd have feel the situation and determine if based on the person ( and the vibes I get from them), the surroundings and that particular situation if its something I felt was worth doing.
For example if its someone I see often maybe, if its a complete newbie that I've never seen before- I doubt it.
Oh, see, that's different to me. Going with friends or making gym friends = great. Random fit girl walking by my treadmill and telling me what a great job I'm doing as my fat asss sweats while walking and she just ran 15 miles and doesn't have a hair out of place in her ponytail? Not interested.
It really depends...
The old me would probably not say anything, agreeing with the blending in at the gym comment. They want to blend in, I want to blend in. Shhsh.
BUT the new me realizes how good it feels to know someone is encouraging you. Or not even encouraging, but acknowledging that you are working hard. When I first started, I passed a woman on the trail while pushing Zac and she said, "You go momma" - simple as that, I wasn't embarassed, it actually made me smile to know some skinny mini in shape woman didn't think I was fat lazy @ss when she saw me.
I think it just depends on the work-outers mentality, as to how they will take your comment.
The thing is, it doesn't hurt to say something nice, ever. But for some reason it's easier for people to ignore, or complain than it is to step up and be nice.
I do see this point, and at one time I couldn't agree more! BUT now I think I'd be offended if I was being nice to you, and you blew me off. You never know, the person encouraging you maybe was in your boat at one time.
Interesting. I guess we just see it differently. You said the woman who passed you on the trail wasn't seeing you as being fat and lazy by encouraging you she was recognizing that you were working hard. I can see that.
For ME though, I see a call out at the gym as saying precisely you ARE fat. I mean, a skinny chick probably wouldn't be like "great job!' to another skinny chick - right? It's like saying "Hey, noticed your're fat or that you're "new here" so maybe I should tell you how well you're doing so that you'll keep it up".
This happened to me ALL.THE.TIME at the gym when I used to go. I hated it the most when I'd ALREADY lost 80 lbs and people would see me, still fat, and assume I was new and try to be all "stick with it..." and I wanted to be like "listen, I have been here for months, I may still be fat, but I've already lost 80 lbs so spare me the pep talk". So, to your point, before someone says something "nice and helpful" to someone at the gym they think is fat and out of shape, they should consider that that person may already be really far along in their journey of weight loss....
Then again, I am cynical and generally don't talk to strangers, and maybe this is why
FWIW, I think your person's comment is also different b/c you were with Zac and she was like "nice goin', Momma". For some reason, that's less confrontational, to me, then someone being in your business when you're on the treadmill. *shrug*
That may be true, but it seems like a lot of people that first start in a gym have been putting it off b/c they're uncomfortable and don't want to stick out. I feel like calling attention to that could possibly make them not want to come back.
I know it's different for each person, that's why I choose to keep my mouth shut lol. There are two ladies that started at the beginning of the year at the gym near my work and I give them encouraging smiles when I see them b/c I think it's nice they started together and I can tell they're working hard. I think that's as far as I go when it comes to other people at the gym.
I like fiesty Naylon lol.
How is day 2 going?
It's going. Jim's phone randomly rang at 2AM (wrong #) so it clearly woke me up and holyfreakinggod I was starving. I managed to go back to sleep. Then, this AM, I was fine. I also figured out that you can break down your one (real) "Lean and Green" meal in two so you get to eat more often. Eggs also give you a lot of bang for your buck so this morning I got to have real eggs - but I only did half the allowance so I get to have another 'real' meal later. It's the little things.
Right now I'm having some cinnamon pretzel sticks which are.......not so good.
I got on the scale this morning and it was down...I know it's water/means nothing at this point but, I'll take it!!
Thanks for asking (see, not all call outs are bad
Yay for some loss! Even if it's water, it at least makes you feel like you're moving in the right direction to give you some motivation. Hopefully the more comfortable you get with it,you can find some type of combination that leaves you feeling more satisfied.
I should also add that I don't like you fiesty because you're hungry. No one likes being hangry.
I would not say something. I hate the gym. I hate working out if front of people and I want to be invisible while I am there. If someone said something to me, I would probably never show my face again. That's just my personality though. This is why I don't go to the gym
I feel the same as Naylon.
The point Naylon made is the reason I would never do this to someone random. Not all fit people are skinny and not all out of shape people are heavy, and vice versa to both. In other words, that person that looks heavier than me could quite possibly hop on that elliptical and figuratively kick my a$$!
However, I have no problem spouting (or receiving) encouragement if I'm involved in conversation, either current or ongoing. If somebody asks me for help to get started on a machine I'm using and then says something self-depracating, I have no problem throwing out a "Well, stick with it! You'll do great!" Or If I see them frequently and they've previously brought up their goals, I'll give a "You're doing great! Great to see you!"
Its funny cause during the summer when I was running outside along a pond the same girl and I ended up passing each other 3 times (we were going in opposite directions on the loop). The first time I smiled and so did she, the second time, I said good job! and then the third time she said "way to go" Then I said "I'm done after this so we won't meet again" It was kinda funny, awkward but I felt the need to say something since we kept passing each other.
At the gym I always want to compliment the girls I see running at speeds of 7and 8mph on the treadmills. There was a girl the other day that I just kept thinking, OMG she is in amazing shape and what a great runner. I was close to saying something like "I hope to be in such amazing shape or such a good runner someday" but didn't want to be creepy.
Then I see people overweight like me and sometimes want to say something but never do.
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