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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Where do you live Post D?
I'm still in the house, however, it wil be going up for sale soon. I want a fresh start somewhere new with my children...somewhere that doesn't have memories of DH. I have been looking and I can't find anything decent in my area that doesn't cost a fortune. I am not poor, and I am not looking for a big house...just something simple and convenient for me and my kids. I'd rather not live in an apartment because my kids really need a yard to play in.
What are you guys doing...especially if you have children?
Re: Where do you live Post D?
i moved out 1 week after the divorce was final even though i kept the house. he was allowed to stay in it until he found a job elsewhere...which turned out to be like 4 months. it helped with bills, but he didn't do crap around the house, so i had to come back all the time to clean and mow the lawn.
once he moved out, BF and i tried keeping up 2 houses since mine is closer to work, but that was too much, so we rented mine and now we live in his house.
I kicked ex H out, he still lives with mommy. I moved out of our shared apartment when the lease expired into a smaller apartment. no kids
Now I live with SO far away from him
A cannot put into words how wonderful a fresh start was... I moved from the midwest (st. louis area) to New York, where I'd never even visited before. No one will ever tell me a story about XH or update me about what he's done. Hell, I haven't even told most people I was married before. It's like he never happened. I hope you can get a fresh start too!
I don't have any kids, but I do have a dog so a yard was important...I was lucky enough to find half a house to rent that came with a fenced in yard. Have you scoured every newspaper published, craigslist, and called realtors?
I kept the house, amazing what guilt does during a divorce! I love love love my house and since he left have done a lot of making it more mine.
ETA: I have two kids and it was fabulous to not have to uproot my kids. I did look at apartments but there were very few available in my kids' school district that were in my price range and big enough for us.
I am renting a Townhome, which provides me just enough yard for what I need (and there is a really nice clubhouse with pool here too).
I plan on buying a home within the next year and Im looking at the single family homes in this community.
20+ miles from XH makes me feel good knowing I won't run into him at the supermarket.
XH moved out of our house and in with the OW for a few months while I studied for my boards (isn't he a sweetheart). I moved out in May and in with my parents for two months. My lawyer rented me out his summer home and I lived there till everything was final and I bought my own place. Moving that many times in 8 months was horrible, but I'm staying here for awhile. I was so upset having to leave my house. I loved that house and had put so much work into it. But, now I have my own house. Its no one elses and I can do whatever I want to it.
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I lucked out because XH's name was never on our house. It was a family situation where we were buying it from my grandmother. We moved in when we were engaged, but not married, so we put the home in my name only. THEN we were supposed to change it into both of our names, but never did. Fast forward a few years and things were headed south fast and I was so glad we never made this modification to the docs.
So I live in the same house and I even kept all of the furniture but XH's bedroom set. My parents took out a small loan to help with the down payment when we refinanced and so they will get their investment back when/if I sell the home someday. It's a two bedroom/two bath on a huge lot at the end of a dead end street. I feel so lucky that I live there and can say I'm a homeowner at the age of 29!
He was military, so we both had to move out. :-)
I packed his crap and put it in a storage unit and me and my kid flew home and I live with my parents. They are helping me with her, while I finish my degree. I can't wait to have a place of my own again.
I am still living in the house with DS. And I plan on staying there with him. The down payment was all money I had saved up (we bought it before we were married). And the monthly payments were made from my paychecks.
I'm just redecorating room by room so it is mine and not ours.