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Ridiculous FB annoyance

Are your newsfeeds being predominated by the C&Ped "JUST A MOM" status update? I find this annoying on so many levels. To begin with I don't know anyone who would say another person is "just a mom". And then you add to it the holier than thou lines like "I work DAY & NIGHT. I am on call 24/7 for the rest of my life. That's just BEING A MOM!!! I may not be anything to you, but I am everything to someone!!" I mean for crying out loud no one forced you to have a kid and more than 80% of adult women have kids so you're not some special misunderstood creature. I know it is something silly to find annoying but I do.
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Re: Ridiculous FB annoyance

  • I haven't checked yet today. I have seen variations of it before.

    I don't get it at all. It just screams "I had children just so I could play some kind of martyr". I love my son, I do a lot for him, but I certainly don't feel shackled in the way that many of these posts make me feel.

    He changes his lifestyle to fit my needs, not the other way around.

    By that, I mean, like the ladies who said they would only meet the president if it didn't interfere with naptime. Like, Jesus H. people. I do what I want to do or need to do on the weekends. My kid will either nap where we are, not nap, whatever. But I am not going to say I have to be at the house to have him nap and give up my life.

  • One advantage to a small FB friends list is that I avoid this kind of shiit.  My mom worked two jobs then, and was on double call.  She beats all these biatches. 
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  • I'm always afraid that people are going to lump me in with these people. 

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    Luckily I have not encountered this.  All I see is Giants Rule! stuff these days.
  • imagenoisy_penguin:
    I'm always afraid that people are going to lump me in with these people. 

    this is a thought that has crossed my mind before as well. i mean, i would never ever in a million years post something like what mod is talking about (how embarrassing and simultaneously self congratulatory/self flagellating) but i acknowledge that i post pictures/things about my kid probably more than other things.

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  • imagenoisy_penguin:
    I'm always afraid that people are going to lump me in with these people. 

    Yes! I saw a post from kuus about how she pities parents and I wonder if it's because these are the types of parents she knows.

  • I love seeing pictures of my friends' kids. I love reading the funny stories about parenting them. I hate the thoughtless C&P bullshit.
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    imagenoisy_penguin:
    I'm always afraid that people are going to lump me in with these people. 

    Yes! I saw a post from kuus about how she pities parents and I wonder if it's because these are the types of parents she knows.

    No I think its just because she's kuus.

    I hate those FB things. I HATE them.

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    Mod- those are all the people that apparently thought it was necessary to give up their highlights for their baby. They are a different animal that defies logic.

  • Yes, it's not about the kids. It's the combo of the "I'm a SAHM so people think I don't do anything" defensiveness with the "I'm a SAHM so my kid is my whole existence" martyrdom with a large side of "I'm a SAHM so really I work HARDER than anybody else" self-righteousness.  It's hard work to maintain that combo, I bet.
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  • I vote not silly.  I'm "just a mom" (the hell does that even mean, anyway? Last I checked, shooting a kid out didn't deprive someone of all other roles in life--wife, daughter, friend, canasta player, whatever), and I find these statuses annoying as allshit. 

    ETA: And ditto, Noisy. 
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  • I, for one, am sick and tired of Noisy's constant sanctimonious FB posts about how awesome she is for being a mom and that her kids are perfect and not disgusting.
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  • I haven't seen any of these today but my old neighbor pretty much post the same thing everyday.  I can't believe she still as FB friends since most of her post say that she's a better mom since she doesn't work and woman who work and put their kids in day care are selfish.  
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  • imagelmydogally:
    I haven't seen any of these today but my old neighbor pretty much post the same thing everyday.  I can't believe she still as FB friends since most of her post say that she's a better mom since she doesn't work and woman who work and put their kids in day care are selfish.  

    I've had people tell me this to my face. I can't stand the self righteousness in either direction on this topic. 

  • I have a Homeschool Mommy on my FB friend list, and she brings a whole new level of self-righteousness to the Mommy Wars.
  • I once complained on FB about writing my dissertation and a college friend said something like "You think that's hard? Just wait until you have kids." I told her where to shove it and it turned in to a long fight with various mommies chiming in on her side.

    I am now qualified to say: being a SAHM is not nearly has hard as getting a Ph.D. And even if it weren't, where do you get off saying that to someone out of the blue? Suck it, biitch.

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  • You're not alone! There are tags for these c&ps and mommyjackers, like the kind PDX encountered.

    http://www.stfuparentsblog.com/

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  • I have not seen this, but all the moms in my big Catholic family have spent the last few days posting about Roe v Wade. Fun stuff.
  • I love that Moo knows all the relevant websites.
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  • My friends only care about Prince Fielder going to the Tigers, I think.

    However, I'd really like to post and say something like: "I'm not a mom. I work 12 hours a day, spend money on useless crap, and sleep all weekend. But I do it because I'm NOT A MOM!"

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  • Facebook Aunt is fond of posting chain status updates, but she is childless, so I have not had to see this one from her.
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