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It appears there was a DD....
Guess Ursula didn't like what we had to say....
"Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
~Benjamin Franklin

DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Re: It appears there was a DD....
From the 21 reply post? Have you seen all the crazy talk?
No, she was the one that wanted to know how to not have her ILs judge her for "accidentally" producing another mouth for them to feed.
Ohhhhh.
advice about breaking baby news to in-laws
advice about breaking baby news to in-laws
Hi! I'm pregnant.
Really, that's about all you need to say. Why is either side of your family all up your reproductive organs? And why are you letting them? How many children you have and when you have them is between you, your husband and your doctor and that's it. Tell them to eff off if they have a problem.
Why not forget the explaining and just telling them that you're pregnant.
The thing is, you're pregnant because using the cycle method didn't work or you weren't cautious enough and so now you'll have to make it work with what you have. It sounds like it will be a struggle but people worse off than you have had babies and made it work for them. You don't need a mini van to have 3 kids, my brothers and I fit fine in the back of a suzuki swift (not even a 4 door). You don't need to explain this to anyone. Just tell them that you're pregnant and that you're excited. If they ask if you had planned it you can tell them it was a surprise. It really doesn't matter, either way a baby is coming. What are you afraid they're going to say?
"Guess what, we're having another baby!"
And ditto what sprky79 said. Your reproduction, in all shapes and forms, is not their business.
You're overthinking it. You're pregnant, congratulations!
And let DH announce it when you're not in the room, so everybody doesn't have to feel embarrassed by an awkward silence or expression. Let it sink in a bit so they can pull themselves together when they see you.
And yes, it might mean you need more help than you wanted to accept (or they wanted to give) but its a new baby in the family, people will rise to the occassion.
Bottom line ... your body ... your choice on how you 'prevent' pregnancy ... not anyone else's ... you're pregnant - no going back. You announce it like you would if this was your first timed pregnancy.
And yes ... other BC methods do fail but they do not have as high of a failure rate as just tracking a cycle. So if you don't want another baby a year after this one then you might consider being a bit more educated about BC.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10