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Can I whine for a minute girls?
And really...I might cry too. Settle in and grab a snack, this could get long.
I have a crush. A huge stinkin crush. The problem? He's not that in to me. How do I know this? Well uh..I kind of uh...hooked up with him before Chirstmas after a night of heavy drinking. Yeah...I know I know. Anyways...I basically haven't seen or heard from him since then until this past Saturday. We were out with the same group we were out with on said hookup night and we ended up at opposite ends of the table and basically didn't speak. He ended up leaving much earlier than he usually does on these nights and then I in a girlish freakout assumed it's because of me. So what did I do Sunday? (yesterday) I texted him and asked if we were cool. I really wish I hadn't done this. But he texted and said yes we were fine.
So today, I see him in the hall at work and we stop and chat real quick. I tried to be a little flirty and failed miserably. It became clear that he's just not into me. I could just sit here and cry. I just really liked this guy. Before we hooked up we saw eachother frequently when out with our same group of work friends (we're all on the softball and kickball team and hang out outside of work) and we'd always talk and be a little flirty. And now it's gone. I blew it. I'm heartbroken. I just really felt like we were starting to have a connection and I could really see myself dating him. I'm just so...pathetic.
So...unrelated to this (I sware it is) I'm actually moving to the same apartment complex he lives in in March. I've decided to get my sexy back and look freckin hot this summer at the pool. I've kind of already been doing this. I've lost 30 pounds since I left XH. Kickball also starts in March and I also plan to just be myself and show him what he's missing out on. But, all this still doesnt take away the sting from the situation. Anyways. Whine over. Thanks for reading.
Re: Can I whine for a minute girls?
Aw
Don't dwell too much on it, sweety. I'm sure it's awkward, but it will pass. I almost forgot how tense dating is. The waiting, the crushing, the hookups, the let downs.. But in the end, isn't it all fun and new? Why not try not being flirtatious, and blowing him off? Sometimes that lures a guy right in. For some reason, there's a turn on in an unavailable woman (words of wisdom from my guy friends)
On an up note.. kudos for losing 30 lbs! That's definitely an accomplishment. You'll knock all the guys dead at the pool this summer! And, who knows? Maybe you'll get an even more awesome crush
It's all new, and sure I'm having fun with my friends. I do what I want to do, when I want to do it.
But, I havent been on that many dates, and it seems like the only guys who show any interest in me are douchelords. This guy really is just seems like the total package...
Anyways. I'm just having a hard time realizing he doesnt like me when it just seemed like he did. But yeah...I basically plan on just leaving it alone and I'll see him when I see him. I won't go out of my way to talk to him but I won't avoid him either. Just basically try to be myself as much as possible around him.
Oh well.
Oh that's rough. Maybe he's just nervous an doesn't know how to act? Hopefully being in the same complex doesn't make things even more weird.
Hugs!
I know that feeling all too well and it sucks! The good news is that I remember very clearly that that feeling goes away just as quickly as the crush started in the first place.
Go about your business, kick more a$$ loosing weight and you'll feel better in no time!