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Ohhhh boy. (MIL)
MIL announces to the dinner table the other night, "I think I'm going to get the facebook."
And so it begins.
I don't think I will change anything I say/ post, but I can see her not getting a lot of what I say. Anybody else have their ILs on fb?
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Re: Ohhhh boy. (MIL)
Ohhh goodness. Do you have a pretty good relationship with them? I'm friends with my MIL & FIL and I don't think I really changed my posting either. Honestly, sometimes I forget I'm friends with them until they comment on something or mention something to DH from Facebook.
I think they really just like to look at our pictures and they'll comment every now and then on pictures of Tuck. Hopefully your ILs are the same except replace Tuck with their grandchildren.
My FIL has freestyled rap lyrics on DH's page, so this entertains me at times lol.
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Yep. MIL is on facebook. And she doesn't have many friends or the ones she does do not post very often so she stalks my FB page.
It has been an easy way to share pictures of LO. And it has also come in handy when I have wanted to be passive aggressive but get a message across to her without singling her out.
In some ways it is useful because I think to myself - would I be embarassed if MIL saw this? If the answer is yes, then I probably shouldn't be posting it in the first place.
My MIL is on facebook. I don't think she goes on very often - she's not very tech savvy. Once, she called SIL to remind her of her facebook password, and then when she logged in she went to DH's cousin's page and as convinced that she'd actually signed in as DH's cousin. She's better now, though, and I don't really think about the fact that she's on FB very often. My parents are on, too, and that doesn't bother me.
DH's aunt recently got fb, though, and she is the worst. She comments on every little status update, like, "Lol! Love it! Miss you guys! Love, Aunt Jeri". Annoying.
I'm friends with MIL on fb but she doesn't really post much.
She once called me and got onto me about "safety" after I posted something about H being out of town. She told H too, so he's always making sure I don't post that he is OOT. This was when we were in BR and I think she followed me more closely there to see pics and stuff.
Since we've been back I rarely see her on there.
This is what I did for my FIL/MIL shared page. I don't put anything I wouldn't want them to see, I just don't want them that involved in my business.
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I am not close with my IL's at all and they actually hardly even know the real me or my personality. I hold back a lot when I am with them because of MIL's offensive comments and passive aggressive behavior. I'm sure those that have good relationships with their IL's do not have the same complaints about them being of FB...
My IL's are so annoying on FB. They had it for close to a year before either of them found me and friend requested me. I had to accept of course. I had them blocked at first but they started asking me why they could never see my posts and asked me to check my settings, so I then unblocked them. Flood gates opened.
MIL has no idea what tagging is and so she just tags random people onto the photos she uploads. Example: DH is tagged in a picture of her new carpet, a picture of her dog, and also a picture of this year's Christmas tree. Luckily she has not tagged me yet. I think she thinks you are supposed to tag people in pictures you want them to see or something, and I think she thinks people who are tagged are the only people who can see those photos also, which couldn't be more innacurate... She also makes annoying sentimental comments on my photos like a picture of Jackson she'll say something like, "Thanks for sharing in the joy" and it's just annoying because I'm not trying to "share in the joy" of anything, just posting a cute pic of my son. She does it on photos where I'm trying to show something funny or whatever too, she'll get all sentimental and take away from the original intent of the photo.
FIL has to comment on every. single. photo. or status update I post and he is always trying to be funny but 99% of the time it's really, really lame.
Ugh. Honestly, it's taken away from FB for me a lot. I like to have privacy from them and a world where I can be myself and post funny stuff or whatever, and they just make me have to think about what I'm posting before hand. I've actually started posted less because of them and have considered getting rid of my FB page all together. I can see where your MIL not "getting" the stuff you post could make you feel sort of the same way.
I'm sorry but this just had me laughing out loud at my desk. Luckily my office door is shut.
If I remember correctly, Star, your MIL is a whee cuckoo for cocoa puffs, no? Ugh. Sorry that this is happening...
My FIL has facebook. I block his status updates because they're whiny, annoying, and/or preachy. I just couldn't take it anymore. I rarely post stuff on FB so I don't feel like he's been a real filter or anything.
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Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
My MIL has some crazy in her for sure, but in general she is very good to us and she's an awesome grandma, so my complaints are few and far between these days. And I don't really post anything totally crazy on fb because I still have to maintain professionalism since I plan to return to the education workforce eventually. Chelsey summed up what I meant about "not getting it."
The one thing that worries me is that my mom uses facebook very well and often. She talks about spending time with Natalie, puts up pictures of them, etc., and I also post about my nice days with my mom and sister, etc. Although she would never say so, MIL is seemingly very bothered by my mom's relationship with Natalie. MIL likes my mom and is nice to her, but it's like she's weirdly competitive/ jealous over who Natalie sees most. Like anytime I talk about Natalie doing something with my mom, she gets all weird and changes the subject. I just hope she learns to accept that Natalie has TWO grandmothers, and no matter how kind she is to me, there is no replacement for MY mother in my life or in Natalie's. And trust me, if facebook is a catalyst for that whole issue exploding, I will say that to her face with complete confidence.
Thankfully, MIL can't even turn on a computer without help so I am safe there.
Now... when she comes over, sees mine up on the computer mine and asks a million questions like "So and so put a picture of their dog on Facebook?" Umm... yes. The picture is online. Therefore it has been posted/visible. I can't stand her stupid questions...
This is my MIL, but she has FB, she just can't figure out any of it.
Er. Yeah.
Ohhhhhh boy would be my response to MIL joining FB too, lol. My 1 BIL, 1 SIL, and DH's cousin are on FB. BIL is rarely ever on, but just minds his own busniess anyway. SIL comments on anything and everything. She also reports back to DH and rest of ILs about what I say and post on there, it's beyond annoying and frustrating. She's already been defriended once, my dumb mistake for accepting her friend request again. DH's aunts from his dad's side used to be my friends as well, until I defriended them after DH recived a call every single day from his dad inquiring about things posted on FB. I do have to say that I will sometimes vent on FB, but never mention names or directly insult/target anyone.
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