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Other problems with the job.
He would start Feb. 1, which would not allow 2 weeks notice to his job now. He doesn't want to burn that bridge. I say that's not even an option. It's not ethical to not give notice, plus he wants to stay part time, and pick up a few shifts while he's home, which I doubt would be an option if he did just up and leave.
I would basically be by myself for half the year with the baby. I am away from home 10 hours a day/5 days a week. My mom would help. This is doable, but not the *ideal* situation.
I'm afraid of a job that wants an answer so quickly. They need an answer today. They called him, for the 1st time, this morning.
Matt is not sure what the name of the company is, even.
So, what say you, BNOTB?
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Re: Other problems with the job.
1. Find name of company
2. Google it and look for reviews
3. If all pans out, tell them you need more time to make a decision. If they decline, it wasn't meant to be. If they allow it, tell them you'll be able to start in 2 weeks after notice if given.
I know being alone with a newborn would royally suck, but the pay increase makes this decision easy for me.
I asked a bunch of questions in your other post, but based on this I say NO.
An offer over the phone that needs an answer today? That is sketchy. I'm sure they have guys lined up to take it because of the pay, and they don't have pregnant wives to consider.
I would think they first thing he'd want to look at is the company's safety record, and he can't do that without knowing the name of the company.
Ah, perspective. This is wonderful advice. It's hard to really think things through in the moment, especially at work, with non stop phones.
Yup. This.
See, this was my thought exactly. If the job is this wonderful, why are they so desperate? Matt is terrible at knowing when things are scams. You would be surprised at how many "free pure bred English bulldog: will ship, if you pay for shipping" ads he brought me when he wanted a dog.
Is there any way that he could talk to the new company and explain the problem with up and leaving his current job? The whole not giving notice is not a good thing, and the new company should respect that.
With his new income, would there be any way to cut back on your own hours/ your job? With the new job, would he be working 24/21 or some amount of time less? Why are they in such a rush? How much training would he get before he shipped out? (Assuming he will be on the barge for 21 days...)
How do his benefits stack up against the current job? Are there more perks that come along with being gone for that long?
You really need to sit down and make a list of Pro's and Con's if it is a struggle to decide.
Just remember that with these on/off shore jobs, he WILL be gone for some major holidays. If he's there for Thanksgiving, he probably won't be there for Christmas, etc.
My bro works for a company like that, but he is single and lives on a boat without a wife and kids. It's not really the best lifestyle for those trying to build a regular family life, although there are plenty of people that make it work.
I understand the pay might sound great and it might have advancement opportunites that he would be interested in, but you need to think about the times he will be away and how much that will impact you. I don't know how well you are about doing things alone, but some people can't handle it for very long.