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FFC?
I just need to vent a sec. My DH's 20 y.o cousin is pregnant... she tried for 2 years when she turned 18 and got married. Which is really exciting. Kind of weird to me that at 18 she wants to have babies asap but whatever. Everyday she posts seriously ATLEAST 10 times or more (I've counted) about how marvelous she is feeling and loves his baby kicks. I am trying to get preggo but I can't help but feel bitter towards her for so many reasons. Her staus' being one. I just hid her updates... I don't feel bitter towards any other people. Just her. I dunno. Just needed to vent. I tried to talk to DH about it and he pretty much didn't want to hear it and said I needed to be happy for them.
Re: FFC?
Ahh, I get that from time to time. And I know I am completely in the wrong, hence the reason why I haven't been on FB for the last month, ha!
I think hiding her posts for the time being is a good thing
And I hope you get knocked up ASAP and someone else is complaining that you are an overly happy pregnant lady because you think pregnancy is just, well, wonderful
Just kidding on the second part but I really do hope it happens soon for you!
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Your feelings are totally normal, not to mention anyone who updates their status 10 times a day is super annoying to begin with! Chalk it up to her being "young and dumb" I'm sure
My FFC is that I get annoyed so easily by the dumbest things and I know I need to stop. For ex, a coworker of mine has this habit of ending her phone calls to customers with "have a good day today!!" instead of just "have a great day." The extra "day" drives me insane and I always roll my eyes to myself and that's not very nice of me. But at least I'm just rolling them to myself and not commenting on it to any of my other CWs, I guess ;p
Yeah, talking about his family is a sensitive subject. lol. He is nice the rest of the time, so I guess I'll keep him.
I also have told him that his cousin (same one) SUCKS at photography and I am tired of her "business" posting on my fb. She really does suck. I'll even post photos on here for you to see! lol
Boo. I hate people that post THAT much on FB. I have one *friend* that literally updates her status 20-30 times a day. And then she also replies to herself. It's ridiculous.
H is sick. Again. He's sniffly, and whining about his manflu like he's dying. I'm so over all of his illnesses. Last night he kept me up almost all night because he kept snorting instead of blowing his nose. (I know this is really ridiculous and probably 90% related to hormones, but it still drives me nuts.)
I agree that ANYONE who posts that much on FB is annoying. I have one friend who was like that with her wedding planning...every single day it was "X days left until the wedding!!!!" plus constant (like, 5-6/day) updates about her planning. She then got pregnant right after I had my first chemical pregnancy and posted a pic of the test at 3w5d...I don't think the pee had even dried yet. I knew she'd be just the same with the baby as she was with the wedding (and she was) so she was an immediate "hide this friend" situation.
All that to say I sympathize, your feelings are normal, and just hide her without shame. You'll be much happier for it!
Ellie ~ 3.29.12
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Lol!
I seriously don't understand why people announce pregnancies on FB when it is so early. Whenever I see that, I think how awkward it is. And especially 3w5d. W...t...f! And then all the zillion FB friends are like "congrats!!!!!" like it doesn't even occur to them that such an early preg announcement is weird.
I guess this is another one of my FFCs!
I got one.....
My childhood BFF is a total wreck. She doesn't work, never has, has been married twice and engaged four times. Lives off her rich parents, is an alcoholic and dips. Yes, she has a vagina and she DIPS. Oh, and the worst offense......she still wears scrunchies. Ha. Just kidding. The worst offense is she has a one year old son and she has questionable parenting skills.
Anyway, this girl has effed me over so many times I can't even begin to tell you the half of it. Since my wedding, I have basically cut her out of my life. However, our parents are still good friends so she has become an *acquaintance* to me, although she never got the hint and still thinks were BFFs.
Over the last month she has been calling me non-stop, sending me texts and FB messages. And at all hours of the night. Like, seriously? You call me at 2 AM to talk about my miscarriage (not that she really cares about ME, she just wants the gossip)? I have yet to return a call/text/email and I was beginning to feel a little guilty, because she has effed over everyone in her life and has no friends.
So, today she called (again) and in a moment of weakness I picked up the phone. No "how are you doing", no "I am sorry about what you went through", just a "OMG, I am pregnant!!!!! Squee!!!! I wasn't even trying and I got KU, just like the last time!! I am so fertile, it's not even funny!!!".
Fuckk you biitch.
Then she goes on to tell me that while she will cut back on her drinking, she is still going to have a beer or two everyday. She said her doctor even approved, because "alcohol is safe during pregnancy". Then she said that she wasn't going to quit dipping because it's not like she is smoking, so she doesn't have to worry about the baby getting lung cancer.
What? !!!?!?1 ::rolls eyes::
Oh, and the best part? She asked how I knew "the baby inside me died" because you know, she heard my story and thinks the same exact thing will happen to her, but she will be further along.
I reassured her that OF COURSE she would go on to have a healthy baby. OF COURSE SHE WOULD.
The she said, "Yeah, you're right. My BF and I have super fertile powers."
Fuckk you biitch.
Thanks for making me feel bitter. I haven't up until this point. I don't wish her any ill will, but I know her intentions, she just called to rub salt on the wound.
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12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
I would have hung up on her. So sorry that you had to go through this Kathy. I can't imagine how insensitive people can be at time.
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Your "friend" sounds so insensitive! I'm sorry she was like that with you.
Some people have no tact or ability to see how their words and actions impact others.
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I am so sorry, Kathy!! I don't know if you remember me posting when I was PG about a 'friend' who said "congrats, twins! You didn't do that fertility shiit did you?" "Oh...well at least you aren't octomom!" I got off the phone with her pretty fast and haven't responded to her since. She got the hint pretty quick. Hopefully your friend does the same. I am not one to make a big scene and cut people out of my life abruptly, but if you are over her then she will hopefully take a hint soon enough. (Although it sounds like she is a little dense.)
I am sorry, Stephanie! Hiding her was a good thing. My H can be sensitive about his family sometimes, too. So vent away on here
Wow, that is so awful. And, lol at the scrunchies.
Wow. That chick really takes the cuntcake, doesn't she? Damn.
FTR, anyone who dips is a complete and total idiot. Vagina or not.
To everyone else,
I'm sorry. It seems like the week to hear from shitastic friends/family.
Amen to that! My mom just spent a week here, from the 16 to the 23. Every time we get together (although this was the first time it happened on my turf) I think "this is the time it is going to be different, we are going to get along this time". Wrong again. Bright side, MIL now is a hero to me and I realize how much I took her for granted until now. And I'm learning how to be/not to be with my own daughter.
Thanks everyone for making me feel like I am not overreacting. The more I thought about my conversation, the more pissed I got last night. And of course, my mom, who always tries to smooth things over, kept telling me not to be upset because she really didn't intend to be hurtful, blah, blah, blah. Finally I got her to admit that my ex-BFF is spiteful.
I guess I will just go back to ignoring her calls/texts/emails. Unfortunately she knows I am in Orlando until Feb 9 so I am sure she will have an unannounced visit to my parents house :
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12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
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I know, I wish I made her up. But she is living and real. My H is pretty laid back but he can't even stand the sight of her, because of all the things she has done over the years. And she says the most awkward things.
She reminds me a lot of Casey Anthony, delusional and living in the land of make believe. I don't say this in a snarky way, but I think she has some emotional issues. She wasn't always this way, she use to be somewhat normal. When any of my old friends and I get together, the conversation sometimes turns to this crazy friend and everyone is like WTF happened to her? It seriously is mind boggling.
Baby Macy is here!
12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
This!!! Unbelievable.
I would love for you to explain why/how/whatever dipping is an intelligent decision.
I didn't say it was an intelligent decision. But someone dipping doesn't define who they are. Is it a stupid decision? Yes. but so is overeating, and a number of other things that can kill you.
Am I being sensitive? Yes. MH dips, and while I don't like it, I don't think he's a complete and total idiot.