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Stolen from MM:Why I told my daughter to quit her job
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/holly-robinson/quitting-your-job_b_1211880.html
Basically, the article is about a mother telling her daughter it was okay for her to quit her job in a science related field with benefits to get a job at a coffee shop and decorating cupcakes at a bakery. What would you do if your child wanted to quit their good paying job to take a minimum paying job when they went to college?
The daughter left her old job because she wasnt happy at the company and her boss was mean.
Re: Stolen from MM:Why I told my daughter to quit her job
I have been lucky enough to have parents who believe that money is good, but being happy is better. They told us it's not worth it if you are making a million dollars at a job you hate and dread going to everyday. It is far better to be making minimum wage at a job you enjoy and are excited to go to everyday.
My parents want their children to be happy. They have always told us to weigh our jobs, and if our jobs were costing us more than we were making, it was time to move on to something better. I never felt my parents wanted me to suffer to be rich.
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<a href="http://www.thenest.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Home DI couldn't put it any better.
When I went on interview after interview for a legal position and ended up crying at the thought of sitting behind a computer being a drone doing document review, my parents told me the same thing. I told them I'd rather pick up dog sh*t and be happy than work in a field that I went to school for being miserable. Thankfully I have parents who would rather see me happy as long as I wasn't suffering financially.
Granted, this was after my life fell apart and my parents would have given anything to see me smile again. Right now I'm working in the legal field with awful bosses and am miserable at work--there are days that I'd rather work at a diner but I'm sticking it out until another venture comes along (it's a waiting game but I should be able to move on in a few months).
Yup! Most days I really like my job. Both DH and I work at a university, using our degrees, but we could definitely, definitely make a lot more money if we worked almost anywhere else. But we like what we do and we can pay all our bills and travel and save a bit of money so we're fine!
My parents aren't into money at all, my mom's basically a hippy and my dad is not materialistic at all. As long as I wasn't asking them for money, I don't think they care at all what I do in that sense.BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks, Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks
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Not having kids, it's easy to say, "yes, I'd be supp-o-Mom", but in reality I'd probably be slightly less open minded.
I truly feel for anyone stuck in a job they hate (I do mean HATE, not just dislike....I've been there (for about 6mos) and it was soul sucking).
That said, when I was living in the hell, I stuck it out until I could make other arrangements (I went back to an old job... yeah that's kind of eating sh!t, but I left on reasonably good terms, so it wasn't such a rough transition). Working that 6mos was probably the worse period of my life, but I hung tough til Plan B was firmly in place. It was hard, but I'm just risk adverse like that (I didn't have the savings to be jobless and w/o healthcare, etc).
Much as it sucked, I like to think the experience ultimately had a positive effect on me-- made me appreciate good coworkers, lead me to focus more on career change/school, made me appreciate my H's (then BF) support-- he really was particularly wonderful to me during the horrible period.
I?m not sure my DH would be cool with our DD "pulling a stunt" like the one in the above article, but I?d be down with it. It?s her life to live, not mine.
I couldn't agree more. I agree with uk and blueangel, supporting yourself if a key part of life of course. But not everyone requires the same level of financial/material accumulation.
I am lucky that my parents would probably tell me something similar, and I would tell V the same. I feel like self-sufficience is a great accomplishment in life, but I also feel like materialistic, consumer driven obsession with 'having it all' is extremely destructive to overall life satisfcation.
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I agree with blueangel, but I've also been lucky enough to be able to support myself adequately my entire adult life and trust that my daughter would be able to figure things out to be able to do the same. My parents were definitely more anxious about my ability to do this because of their own financial difficulties while I was growing up. To them, how much money my siblings and I earned as adults was a sign of "success" in their eyes. I don't fault them for this attitude given their struggles and I think I'm very privileged to be able to say now "it's more important to be happy."
This is true. I think that people who have really struggled to make ends meet will not be as tolerant of their children picking low-paying professions if they have higher qualifications because the parents know how hard it is to be broke. Also, I think people who watched their parents struggle may make different choices. My roommate at college was a fantastic artist and her real dream would have been to go to art school. But her dad went to prison for beating her mom, and her mom really struggled to provide for her two girls, so my roommate decided she would study international economics. She now works as an assistant at a law firm and doesn't like it, but she only works for money, not fulfillment. So I agree with you that our history can really shape how we view work.