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Have you ever looked at a home and the sellers were there?

DH and I were househunting in the town he's taking a new job in a couple of weeks ago and three out of the eight homes we looked at, the owners were home.  The first one (the home we ended up putting an offer on) the owner was home but she really stayed out of the way.  The other places it was just super awkward, the people weren't personable and I just got the feeling that maybe it wasn't their option to sell (like it was forced) or something.  I thought it was pretty standard that the current owners weren't there during showings? 

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  • Most of the homes we have seen, the owners have not been home. There was one occasion where they were, and like you said it felt like it wasn't their option to sell.
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  • The only one we saw the sellers at was at a house where they were doing their own open house.  House had been on the market forever so his realtor had probably given up on them or wouldn't use them as much as the owner wanted.
  • Yes, and it's awkward.  We looked at a few properties which were currently being rented and the current tenants were there every time.  We never had it specifically happen with owner-occupied homes, although we did have a couple of homeowners who waited until we showed up to leave.  Maybe they had been getting a lot of no-shows lately.

    Oh, and one guy left a baby monitor on so he could hear what we were saying inside the house.  We thought it was weird when there was a baby monitor turned on but no other evidence of a baby (no nursery, no crib, etc.) but gave him the benefit of the doubt... until he walked back in the home at the exact instant we were leaving holding the other part of the baby monitor in his hand.  That creeped me out more than if he would have just eavesdropped on us in person during the showing.

  • We looked at many, many houses before buying ours (probably over 100) and the sellers were never present (except one that was FSBO). That seems extremely uncomfortable.

    Also, we were never present in our home we sold during a showing. 

  • Yes, current owners are usually not around during showings or open houses. Obvious exception is when the house is FSBO.
  • We had one house where the owners were home when we came to take a second look, and it bothered us, especially once we realized that there was an issue with the second bathroom that would prevent us from buying the house.  A second house we looked at also had the owners there and we took one look at the house and knew we didn't want it, but felt like we had to look at the rest of the house because they were there.
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    We sold our house when my son was 2 months old.  I was typically home when people would come look at the home, but I'd take him on a long walk while the potential buyers were there.  It was too hard to pick up and leave each time someone scheduled a showing, especially since most scheduled showings were last minute.

    About 50% of the homes we've looked at are vacant, another 25% the owners aren't there when we look, and for the last 25% of the homes we've seen the owners are home and kinda hover while we look.  Some like to point out special features, which is pretty annoying and awfully uncomfortable 

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    Yes, and it's awkward.  We looked at a few properties which were currently being rented and the current tenants were there every time.  We never had it specifically happen with owner-occupied homes, although we did have a couple of homeowners who waited until we showed up to leave.  Maybe they had been getting a lot of no-shows lately.

    Oh, and one guy left a baby monitor on so he could hear what we were saying inside the house.  We thought it was weird when there was a baby monitor turned on but no other evidence of a baby (no nursery, no crib, etc.) but gave him the benefit of the doubt... until he walked back in the home at the exact instant we were leaving holding the other part of the baby monitor in his hand.  That creeped me out more than if he would have just eavesdropped on us in person during the showing.

    Omg this is hilarious!  And pathetic at the same time.  I would have ruled that house right away, creepo 

  • yes, but it hasn't ever been awkward. owner has stayed out of the way in the 5 or so houses where he/she has been home. it was because the owner works from home, is retired, or has an infant. it has actually been a good thing many of the times as most of them will take a few minutes to answer some great questions my agent has for them about the house, the neighbors & neighborhood, when things were remodeled or upgraded, etc.
  • There were a few times the owner was present...

    The one example that stands out was when the family was preparing breakfast (10am) and people were coming out of rooms in pjs!  The agent said to follow her around and we said no thanks and backed out of the kitchen and house fast! 

    That house is still on the market and it has been over a year... 

  • When we were looking, the homeowners usually left.  I can only think of one time they were present, and it was an elderly woman for whom leaving during every showing could have been difficult.  She had her granddaughter keeping her company, and they stayed at the kitchen table the whole time, not getting involved at all other than to say hello when we came in.  We just didn't make any comments while in the kitchen (easy enough, it was pretty small) and weren't at all bothered by it.
  • We came for a second look at the house we ended up buying and the owners came home as we were finishing up talking. We ended up leaving and writing up an offer on it at a restaurant down the street. I could hardly blame them for coming home though, as we had been there almost an hour and someone else was looking when we arrived. We were there so long because both my and DHs parents met us there to take a look. 
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  • We had two experiences with the owners being there and they were super awkward. One time the owner was passed out on the sofa. We were told that they wouldn't be there and started walking around before realizing they were there. The person didn't wake up the whole time.

     The second time, the woman gave us a tour of the place. She was nice and helpful but it was still a bit awkward. Especially since we realized the place wouldn't work for us fairly quickly but felt obliged to take the entire tour.

     There was also one time where the family was walking out as we were walking in. That one was no big deal. 

  • Most of the time the sellers were either gone or stayed out of the way, but we did look at one place where it the sellers were there and it was incredibly awkward.  The place was filthy, there were four people playing Wii in the living room, someone was cooking in the kitchen, and when we went down to see the finished basement there was king-sized bed in the middle of the room with a woman in it!  She was wearing a skimpy tank top and talking on the phone.  Needless to say when the listing agent called for our feedback we had some choice comments.
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  • We saw 25 houses and only 2 of them was someone home. It was awkward both times.

    One guy pretty well stayed out of our way. He would only allow the house to be shown while he was there.

    One woman followed us around the house telling us things about the house (in an annoying way not a helpful way) and then wouldn't let us go in one room bc her adult son was taking a nap in there. The house had been on the market a long time and she was not will to reduce price at all. 

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  • The only time owners were in a house we toured was during a FSBO open house.

    I would dislike it if the owners were home when I visited a house. And I would feel bad if it wasn't their choice to sell.

    We like to discuss things we like and dislike about the homes and I would just not feel at liberty to be candid with my thoughts if the owners were there. 

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  • The place where it was the most awkward for us was this one house where someone was sleeping in the one bedroom (and no one who lived there had the courtesy to tell us) and their for sale sign was thrown in the backyard behind the pool...lol.

    Another place, the listing agent told the owner the wrong time that we'd be there so she wasn't expecting us.  The place was filthy and the woman was cooking something that smelled awful in the kitchen (DH said it was probably meth lol). 

    If nothing else, it gave us some good stories to tell our friends Indifferent

  • XH and I looked at a LOT of homes, but the owners were only there in 2 of the homes. In one home, it was SO awkward, the house was a mess, they were cooking, and it was clearly a no go from the start. I also felt it was not their option to sell. 

    The second house was actually okay to have them there. It was a historic home, and they pointed out some really awesome features, were not overbearing at all, and then left and let us walk around and talk alone.  They were actively trying to sell.

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    In addition to my infant, an issue that I had was my dog.  We don't crate him so my biggest fear was someone coming in and somehow letting the dog out.  That's one of the reasons I wanted to be there just before and just after potential buyers came through.  Like I said, I never stayed in the home, I would always take a half hour walk with the dog and baby.  These responses are eye opening, I didn't think anyone would care.  I guess it does't matter now though since the house sold!
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  • Twice.

    One time the owners were just leaving as we were walking up to the door, so that was NBD. We ended up buying that house.

    The other time was just bad all around. We made an appointment 2 days in advance, so it's not like she wasn't given any notice. The owner had the front door hanging open but locked the screen door so we couldn't get in. We rang the doorbell a few times, banged on the door and after a few minutes she finally came to the door. She said her soap was on and didn't want to miss it so she was waiting for a commercial to answer the door. Our realtor was taken aback by her being in the house (it's really uncommon other than FSBO) and asked if she intended to leave. Nope, instead she followed us (me, H and our realtor) around the whole time. It was super awkward. She didn't let us look in the coat closet and she got offended when I tried to open the pantry and some kitchen cabinets, so we didn't even bother to go past the ground floor. We were in and out within 10 minutes and that was the end of it. Our realtor found enough humor in the situation to let us know when her realtor called for feedback on the house. The only feedback he gave was that access to the house was essentially blocked by the homeowner who refused to leave the house, on the premise that she didn't want to miss her tv show.

  • I'm really just a lurker but when we were house shopping, we did have one amusing experience.

    The owners weren't home but we did open a door and walk into a bedroom and catch their teenage son smoking pot on his bed.  Guess he thought he lucked out that his parents weren't home :)

    I'd be really uncomfortable with the owner's being home.  I feel like being very honest with your realtor as you look at houses is important and cuts down on having to go see homes that you really wouldn't like.  And it's hard to keep a mental tally of the problems and then explain them after the fact.

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  • Yes, and awkward.

    One was an open house for a FSBO house. I guess the owner had to be there since they weren't using a realtor, but still, weird.

    One was an open house where the realtor had an emergency and couldn't come, so the owner held the open house herself. At least she was up front about being the owner so we didn't mistake her for a realtor and say mean things about the house. Still awkward

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  • When we were looking at our now house the second time, we already were pretty sure we wanted to put an offer on it but wanted a 'homeowners opinion' and brought my dad to see it. The selling agent had neglected to tell the homeowners we were coming so they were home when we got there. They were very gracious and i felt it very beneficial to get thier insights on the neighborhood, knowing thier reasons for selling, (and selfishly knowing they were wanting to sell fast gave us a better picture of what to offer), and then when we did offer they accepted within 20 minutes, and we turned around and were actually did all our signing at the same time as them in the same room, since the selling agent was oot, our agent got her to sign everything and fax it to her agent. It was wierd to me that this all happened this way, but it was nice to know now what the exact issues with the house are (aside from what the inspector found), what neighbors have kids/cats etc, where to park if your spot is taken (its all street parking), all things we wouldnt have known if we didnt meet them. Also its helped too that they are friends with the neighbors so the neighbors come over to collect any mail we might have gotten for her, and its helped us to get to know the neighbors and not feel so annoyed by things like getting mail for her.

  • We had that happen twice. The first time it was weird and the woman wasn't friendly. The second time the woman had broken her foot but went into the garage to stay out of our way. We ended up talking to her on the way out and she complimented us on our dog who was waiting in the car. It was a positive interaction - we put in an offer today.
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