Trouble in Paradise
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Painful Sex!!!
Ever since I was married (I was married a virgin) I have had painful sex. I don't know how to change this. It has effected our marriage. I feel so alone in all of this.
Re: Painful Sex!!!
Go to your OBGYN. Your hymen may not have completely broken. A simple, in office, surgical procedure can remove the obstruction and the discomfort.
Are you having orgasms during your sexual encounters? If you aren't sure, you are not having them. They are unmistakeable. DId you masturbate? Do you know what will being you to orgasm? Have you been able to communicate that to your husband?
Was your husband a virgin as well? What are your sexual experiences together or apart?
Also, you should make sure that you are fully aroused before penetration. That means oral attention and probably some manual stimulation from your husband. The vagina changes as it gets turned on. It changes - gets softer, wetter and more pliable. Make sure you are good and ready.
Please remember that sex is more than just thrusting a penis into a vagina. You can do a lot of sensual things that lead to orgasm that don't involve vaginal penetration. While you are looking into a solution for this problem, try alternating not penetrative sessions with penetrative sex. That might allow your vagina to heal between sessions and ease any rawness you might be feeling.
Are you using condoms? Sometimes latex can be an irritant. Or the spermicide on the outside may be irritating you?
Are you suddenly on birth control? That can cause hormonal issues that can make sex less enjoyable.
Please look into these solutions as soon as possible. You don't want to create the connection in your mind that sex is painful because then you will tense up and it becomes a self fulfilling prophesy.