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re: the "anti-gay" on FB
This is just a random thought I had regarding Remy's post and also the one last week about people saying mean things on FB about gay people. Do you think the people saying these things have just never known a gay person and just don't see first-hand how their love is no different than the love a straight person has?
I'm not sticking up for them at all so I hope nobody thinks that. Maybe it's that they haven't had an opportunity to actually know a gay person and see that they really aren't any different.
Just a random thought I had driving into work one day and wanted to see what people thought.
Re: re: the "anti-gay" on FB
I honestly have no clue what makes something think that way. I also can't imagine going through life without ever meeting a gay person, but maybe it's my life that's an anomaly that I've known quite a few?
~ Kelsey Jean ~
Cooking with Crouton: A Food Blog
i think you're probably right - or if they know a gay person they don't realize that person is gay.
but I do think there are some people that just cannot accept love between a homosexual couple, so even if they know a gay couple or a gay person, they still think its "wrong."
The people I know who feel this way have never been around gay people. They like to say stuff like "I don't hate gay people/I'm not homophobic, I just don't think its right" or crap like that. Honestly, the girl who was saying it is NOT a bad person. She is sweet, loves animals, would do anything for you.....I just think she has some pretty limited views having never been exposed to certain things.
One of my closest, bestest friends in the world is gay-he is like a brother to me. He is hilarious, loves to cook, is always there to talk to, a hard worker who pays taxes.....and the thought that he doesnt have the same rights as me ticks me off immensely.
Re: this ignorance... it reminds me of a girl I knew in college who came from a veeery small town in the Midwest (they didn't even get mail delivery, you had to go to the post office to get your mail). She told me that her mom and her friend's mom told them that if a black person and a white person had a baby together it would look like a zebra. Having never known a mixed race couple, the girls believed their moms. She is not the person today that her mother was... she is educated, liberal and accepting. But until she left that small town, she could only go by what she was told and what she saw. I would never defend or allow anti-gay comments, but I guess underneath my frustration I feel sorry for people who don't know better or don't take the opportunity to know better.
Although, I do agree that some of the hate stems from ignorance and just not knowing people who are gay, I think it also can run deeper than that. I think some people truly believe it is a sin and just can't get past those thoughts.
The maternal side of my husband's family is huge, my mil is one of 12. About half of them are very religious and conservative. One of his aunts is gay and is married. Her wife is considered part of the family by the more conservative members, but it is clear at they don't approve of the arrangement. His grandmother, who is 93, pulled me aside one day to tell me that although she loved her daughter and her wife she thought that it was horrible that they are a couple and that she wishes they could find peace in God and stop sinning. She went further to tell me that she tried to keep them from staying at the house she lives in when they come to visit, but since it is her son's house she doesn't have a say. I was flabbergasted and horrified. I muttered something about not agreeing with her, and changed the subject.