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Any kind of advice/opinion?
Sorry this is kind of long...really needed to vent a little.
I have been married to my husband for about 2 years and we had our first baby about 6 months ago. We have always had a honest and loving relationship....so I thought 
I found out that while I was pregnant he started talking and texting other women. When I cought him he told me that it was all just as friends and he just hated to be rude and not talk back. I just brushed it off and thought I was over reacting because of the pregnancy hormones so things started looking better.
I recently found out that he wasn't just talking/texting. He met up with 1 that I know of a few times and brought her to OUR house. When I ask him to explain he just says he liked the attention that she was giving him and that he didn't let it go beyond just meeting and talking as friends.
I am having a hard time believing him now and I know it is going to take alot to ever trust him again but I want to do what is best for our DD.
Has anyone else been through something like this? Any advice on how to trust him again?
Re: Any kind of advice/opinion?
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This is one time that you know about. You can meet and talk as friends, at Starbucks, with your wife knowing you're there and with whom. This is some shady shiit. Trust your gut. He's probably still lying about it, so yeah, how could you actually trust him again?
The trust is gone -- show this guy the door.
This is no "friendship" --- we have seen this scenario a thousand times on this board, with a thousand different OPs. The story is the same...and so is the solution: get rid of him pronto.
Pregnancy is a very very high risk time for a guy; that's when many of them begin to have an affair.
Do what is best for you and the kiddo. GL.
No, haven't been through it becuase I wouldnt tolerate it. He'd be gone as soon as I found out he met up with one. Once i found out he brought her to my house...id cut his balls off.
I cant give you adivce because i dont think you are doing the right thing by staying with a cheating liar. And i certainly dont ting you are doing right by your child!
Go to www.SurvivingInfidelity.com. There is some great advice there. I think they will agree that it is highly unlikely that your husband isn't having sex with some of these women.
Your husband is "gaslighting" you -- trying to make you believe something preposterous, making you feel bad for not believing him. Don't let him snow you.
Get tested for STD's - full screening. Your home visitor may have left you a "hostess gift".
OP, a true loving husband doesn't go trolling for women friends and bring them back to his house without his wife's awareness. It just doesn't happen.
All of this! You have to earn trust and your husband is not trustworthy. He is a lying liar who lies. Please get tested for STDs.
I have nothing to add to this because I think you should be out the door OP.
I just needed to bold this statement because it literally shocked me. Is this really an accepted idea? That your husband might cheat on you when you get pregnant? Like this is something guys just do? Holy sh!t.
Thanks for all the comments. It's not that I believe anything that he has told me up to this point. He has me questioning our whole relationship and I don't think I even know who he is. Since I found out about the actual meetings and such a few weeks ago (from the women he was seeing) he has tried his best to show me how much he cares and that he isn't talking to anyone anymore (not that I fully believe him) so I'm hoping things will get better.
Better how?
Sooooo, just sweeping this under the rug since he's buttering you up now? If you know he is lying, why are you tolerating this?
And please, please for love of all that is holy, do not say for your child.
How nice of him. How do you justify staying with a man who hurt you? How are things going to get better? If he continues to "try his best" to show you how much he cares? How is he going to earn your trust?