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Dear Community,

Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.

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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.

**jennuinne**

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♥ bfp2 02/15/2012 ♥ edd 10/23/2013 ♥
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥

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Re: **jennuinne**

  • imageLegalBritt:
    I re-read my response to your post this morning and I feel like I was really harsh and judgmental by basically saying "don't give him any time..you should just leave him." Sorry. I don't know why I had that kind of response. Of course you know him better than anyone and it sounds like he's got some emotional things to work out.

    No worries.  Everyone that knows him thinks he's just going through some weird phase b/c he's always been so into wanting kids and give it time.  I have no idea how to handle this.  My gut says it's something else and he will obviously want kids, but he seemed so serious the other day...I don't know.  It's really weird in my house right now.

    BabyFruit Ticker
  • imageLegalBritt:

    Does he get really caught up and worried about world events and politics? My Dad and Gmom have both always been in the camp of "How could you ever want to bring children into this world? It's all going downhill and it's just going to get worse. You're kids are going to suffer..."

    They aren't THAT dramatic about it, but that's always the impression I get from them. There is a lot of scary stuff out there. I read and article about what the projected cost of college tuition is going to be when my kids are in college and it almost made me cry. Something has probably just triggered him to totall stress about providing for a family.

    I'm sorry your house has a weird vibe right now. Men are complicated creatures.

    I don't think he's normally super into world events.  But, I think there is probably something that is freaking him out, but he either doesn't realize what that is or doesn't want to tell me.  It might be a money issue, a fear that we will never have sex again (he's mentioned this before), that he will be stuck forever on the west coast (all his friends & fam are on the east coast).  I have no idea.

    The only thing I know, or that he says, is that he is weirdly obsessed with being famous and/or rich.  He's always reading how to succeed books and wants to start his own business (what it is changes from time to time).  He says he wants to focus on saving money for a business (not a baby) and start a business and become a millionaire in 5 years.  He's a bit of a dreamer.  Maybe this is all it is, but I can't wrap my head around how this is what he is really thinking and why he doesn't want kids.  Maybe it is; maybe he's just crazy.

    He's a leo and grew up poor in a bad neighborhood, which I think cause him to feel like he needs to be somebody of have "things" to prove that he made it.  Maybe being black too.  I don't know; I don't get it.

    BabyFruit Ticker
  • imagejennuinne:
    imageLegalBritt:

    Does he get really caught up and worried about world events and politics? My Dad and Gmom have both always been in the camp of "How could you ever want to bring children into this world? It's all going downhill and it's just going to get worse. You're kids are going to suffer..."

    They aren't THAT dramatic about it, but that's always the impression I get from them. There is a lot of scary stuff out there. I read and article about what the projected cost of college tuition is going to be when my kids are in college and it almost made me cry. Something has probably just triggered him to totall stress about providing for a family.

    I'm sorry your house has a weird vibe right now. Men are complicated creatures.

    I don't think he's normally super into world events.  But, I think there is probably something that is freaking him out, but he either doesn't realize what that is or doesn't want to tell me.  It might be a money issue, a fear that we will never have sex again (he's mentioned this before), that he will be stuck forever on the west coast (all his friends & fam are on the east coast).  I have no idea.

    The only thing I know, or that he says, is that he is weirdly obsessed with being famous and/or rich.  He's always reading how to succeed books and wants to start his own business (what it is changes from time to time).  He says he wants to focus on saving money for a business (not a baby) and start a business and become a millionaire in 5 years.  He's a bit of a dreamer.  Maybe this is all it is, but I can't wrap my head around how this is what he is really thinking and why he doesn't want kids.  Maybe it is; maybe he's just crazy.

    He's a leo and grew up poor in a bad neighborhood, which I think cause him to feel like he needs to be somebody of have "things" to prove that he made it.  Maybe being black too.  I don't know; I don't get it.

     

    My H is a leo and has this tendancy. He always bottles up his stress about finances....

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  • I'm so sorry he's not communicating! But I think you're right. I think he's scared of something. Providing is a HUGE thing with most men and my hubs even has mentioned it a few times. How he wants to give our kid the world and how he's scared he can't. Hopefully time will help your H and he'll feel comfortable either telling you what really bothers him, or he decides he wants kids again. You're in my thoughts!
  • awww! that is so sweet!
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  • imagejennuinne:

    The only thing I know, or that he says, is that he is weirdly obsessed with being famous and/or rich.  He's always reading how to succeed books and wants to start his own business (what it is changes from time to time).  He says he wants to focus on saving money for a business (not a baby) and start a business and become a millionaire in 5 years.  He's a bit of a dreamer.  Maybe this is all it is, but I can't wrap my head around how this is what he is really thinking and why he doesn't want kids.  Maybe it is; maybe he's just crazy.

    He's a leo and grew up poor in a bad neighborhood, which I think cause him to feel like he needs to be somebody of have "things" to prove that he made it.  Maybe being black too.  I don't know; I don't get it.

    i think this is awesome...if he were much younger. it's important to have dreams, and to "shoot for the stars", but when you get older, you have to realize what is realistic or not. does he know the stats of people who *actually* make it in those business plans? because the success rates of those are actually very low....do you ever tr and talk him out of it?

    ♥ bfp2 02/15/2012 ♥ edd 10/23/2013 ♥
    ♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
    ♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥

    image
    who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?

    honeymoon biomarried bioplanning bio
    jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
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