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Update and Onward & Upward
Just wanted to give an update. I've been free from his grasp for 3 weeks now and while I still think about him and have struggled with finding my own way, I have not reached out to him once. (I am the OW post from a few weeks ago for clarity)
Today is my birthday and while I struggle with the fact that I'm a year older without children, which I want desperately, and without any potential SO in my near future, I am gaining the confidence needed to let someone who is available to me in every aspect, into my life. It's a bitter sweet feeling, really, but I'm learning to enjoy the taste of it. I'm learning that I deserve better than what he could ever give me.
I know I broached a sensitive subject in admitting my situation, but I really appreciated the support I received from many. Please go easy on the flames, as I feel the waterworks ready to erupt from my eyes as I type this. I'm ready to continue onward and upward on my own two feet... or heels, rather... it's more applicable to me.
People are placed in and taken out of our lives for a multitude of reasons. My faith has me looking upward so I might stay on my path, forward to reach my future and to either side for the ones to walk near me on my journey.
Re: Update and Onward & Upward
Good for you for cutting off ties with him. Has he reached out to you? If not, that's pretty telling. You'll be better off in the long run, especially now that you realize that you deserve a man in your life who can give you what you deserve.
Are you in counseling? If not, I'd start now.
Thank you. He has not reached out and you're right; that is very telling on what I "meant" to him.
I am in counseling, seeing a nutritionist and a dietician. I'm meditating every night, getting healthy through diet and supplements and reading lots of books. One was recommended by another nestie from my older post. I'm getting lots of perspective on why I chose that relationship in regards to abuse and neglect and abandonment from my childhood.
Thank again. I gain strength through this board, hearing of everyone elses struggles and triumphs.
That's a great idea. The children's hospital in my new city has an awesome volunteer program and I've submitted my application and have been accepted, just have to do some follow up as far as a TB test and an in-person interview. With babies on the brain anyways, I thought this would be a great way to be involved and help my community. Thank you.
I love it! This is really going to improve your self-esteem. I'm excited to see what fascinating, quality men you're eventually going to attract.