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Is it creepy for man to masturbate in HIS bed while wife is asleep?

Re: Is it creepy for man to masturbate in HIS bed while wife is asleep?

  • yeah, id say!


  • Umm, yeah.

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  • If it was keeping me up, I'd be annoyed, but I don't think creepy is the word. Why doesn't she just say, "Hey! I'm awake, take it somewhere else" ?
  • its not keeping her awake ....she said she isnt really slepping when he starts (he thinks shes asleep)

    my point is WHY should he take it somewhere esle? he isnt waking her and she wont  do him.



  • I must be a HUGE creep, then. lol

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  • Her solution of "catching him in the act" so she can browbeat him about it is a terrible idea.  Don't make someone feel bad about masturbating, jeezus, even if it is kinda creepy.  Have an adult conversation.  If she can't do that, she shouldn't have gotten married.  Who are these people that cannot talk about issues with their spouses?   

    I think she needs to address her lack of sex drive, otherwise they're just dealing with a symptom of a larger problem.  Why does he have to be the one to initiate?  if anything, I bet he's feeling rejected by her and that's his way of feeling close to her while getting some kind of sexual gratification.

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  • imagepedantic_wench:

    I must be a HUGE creep, then. lol

    LMAO



  • And there is nothing ruder than deliberately interrupting someone masturbating.  No matter how funny you think it is.

    Yes, Mr. Kuus, if you're looking, I'm talking to you.

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  • imageReturnOfKuus:

    And there is nothing ruder than deliberately interrupting someone masturbating.  No matter how funny you think it is.

    Truer words were never spoken.

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  • imagepedantic_wench:
    imageReturnOfKuus:

    And there is nothing ruder than deliberately interrupting someone masturbating.  No matter how funny you think it is.

    Truer words were never spoken.

    well, i kinda like when he interupts! Stick out tongue



  • imagepedantic_wench:
    imageReturnOfKuus:

    And there is nothing ruder than deliberately interrupting someone masturbating.  No matter how funny you think it is.

    Truer words were never spoken.

    for realz lol

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  • She won't do him, won't discuss it with him, and he can't whack off in his own bed by his wife,either now. Sigh.

    I bet she gets REALLY pissed when he finally breaks down and finds some nice girl who will bang him. THEN he'll be the betrayer, the unfaithful one, etc.

     

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  • She has a child with someone that she is not comfortable discussing sex and masturbation with?

    For seriously?

    And just saying oh well, no sex drive and not doing anything to work towards, or even discuss, a solution is ridiculous.

  • imagemagsugar13:
    imagepedantic_wench:

    I must be a HUGE creep, then. lol

    LMAO

     

    LOL!

  • This reminds me of "lots of many napkins"
  • imagemagsugar13:
    imagepedantic_wench:
    imageReturnOfKuus:

    And there is nothing ruder than deliberately interrupting someone masturbating.  No matter how funny you think it is.

    Truer words were never spoken.

    well, i kinda like when he interupts! Stick out tongue

    I was going to say... I consider it an invitation.

    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • Is he cumming on her pillow and laughing maniacally? 

    I have never understood why people are so bothered by masturbation.  I just assume DH does it, never caught him, wouldn't care if I did.  He knows I do.

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  • Creepy? No. I might be annoyed if I were exhausted and FI was keeping me up, but I've caught him masturbating in bed before, and it wasn't an issue at all. A couple of times, I joined in, but sometimes I was just too tired and fell back asleep. Didn't think anything of it. I've also done it in bed next to FI when he was exhausted and passed out...
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  • It's not creepy. It's not something I'd expect to wake up to, but I wouldn't be pissed of, concerned or disgusted in the least. I feel really bad for the guy. He just wants to get laid and he's probably been turned down by her so many times he doesn't even want to bother trying and setting himself up for disappointment anymore.
  • so..hes supposed to go in another room to get off?

    Who wants to do that in the bathroom? or in the living room... guests sit in there!

    If you knew better, you'd do better.
  • imagejulie324:
    This reminds me of "lots of many napkins"

    You have to get it right:  "A lot of many napkins"

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  • imagemagsugar13:
    imagepedantic_wench:
    imageReturnOfKuus:

    And there is nothing ruder than deliberately interrupting someone masturbating.  No matter how funny you think it is.

    Truer words were never spoken.

    well, i kinda like when he interupts! Stick out tongue



    Mags has it right. If I'm being interrupted, it better be with an active participant. ;) Then again, I definitely don't mind if I get woken up to sexytime as well.

    That said, this chick is a loony if she expects the man not to masturbate and she's not putting out either.

    ETA: I also like how she makes her big issue that he's in bed with her and not going to another room, even though she opens the post with serious distaste for his past "other room" behavior. Some people. 


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  • She has an update.

    http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/62764731.aspx

    They are about 12 years old when it comes to sex. She can't say "penis" and it turns out he has a medical issue.

    ETA- I guess he has no problem maintaining an erection for self-love, but not for sex? Seems like more than a physical problem to me.

    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • imageMortomo:

    imagejulie324:
    This reminds me of "lots of many napkins"

    You have to get it right:  "A lot of many napkins"

    This was my exact thought Mort!

     

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  • imageBeebeeEater:
    imageMortomo:

    imagejulie324:
    This reminds me of "lots of many napkins"

    You have to get it right:  "A lot of many napkins"

    This was my exact thought Mort!


     

     

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  • I would be annoyed. Take that shiit in the other room.
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  • imagejulie324:
    This reminds me of "lots of many napkins"

     

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  • imageMuddled:

    She has an update.

    http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/62764731.aspx

    They are about 12 years old when it comes to sex. She can't say "penis" and it turns out he has a medical issue.

    ETA- I guess he has no problem maintaining an erection for self-love, but not for sex? Seems like more than a physical problem to me.

    Definitely. If they can't discuss sex, I'm going to go ahead and guess that there's no "pssssst.. you know what would be AWESOME..."  going on in bed, either verbally or physically.

    But the "I'm looking forward to it" in the follow up is a very good start, thought I wonder if she actually said "let's make out."

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