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DH is super stressed
I have to find a way to de-stress DH. He is the site lead for the group he works with. Last year, management hired a person they shouldn't have. The job deals mainly with Microsoft Office and file manipulation and making presentations. And after 7 months, she still can't do her job. DH has to give her step-by-step instructions daily on things she has been supossedly doing for months. He can't even ask her to do something he did last week without giving her instructions. Then she doesn't follow them! She just hears part of the instructions and fills in the rest with what she thinks she should be doing. DH is stressed because it's up to him to document enough stuff to get her fired. I won't go into all of the details here, but let's just say, it can easily happen and should have happened a long time ago.
He is finding it hard to sleep at night. Last night, he couldn't get to sleep so he went in the living room and watched TV and fell asleep out there. And was way to chipper this morning, even for him. I know this level of stress is unhealthy, but I can't do anything about it.
Does anyone have any suggestions I can try?
Re: DH is super stressed
I have no idea, maybe he needs a good massage and you can make his favorite dinner or something?
Hopefully he can fire this idiot and be less stressed!!
If it's only for a season that he is so stressed - just be there for him. Take it upon yourself to do extra housework/cooking/cleaning and do little things for him to comfort him. Sometimes when DH is stressed out from work I throw his favorite blanket in the dryer for 15 minutes to get it nice and warm so he can feel super cozy on the couch, or I'll make it favorite dinners every night that week, or I'll do the chore I know he does everyday for him.
I'm so sorry he feels so stressed. FWIW my DH is really stressed out right now too. These things happen.
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I promised him a backrub tonight. Yesterday, while I was at the store I bought him a chocolate bar just because I knew he had a bad day. I try and make things easier on him, I just think the easiest thing to do is out of my control.
They are trying to hire someone else, not to replace her, but to replace someone else who left. I think after they get this person hired and trained, DH is going to take the issue to his boss. Who really knows about the situation, but isn't doing anything about it.
I don't think she would bother him so much, if he didn't have to stay till 7:00 some nights correcting her mistakes and documenting what went wrong that day.
I'm sorry he's so stressed! I actually know how it feels. Matt is pretty much like this all the time and it's tough feeling like there's nothing I can do.
Everything I do has pretty much been mentioned but I try to make sure dinner is ready for him when he gets home, do most of the house work, offer massages, etc. If I go out shopping I tend to buy little things to try and make him feel better. A specific food he likes, a movie, or I like doing cards and leaving them places for him to find.
The hardest part is there is not much that you can do. Hopefully his work will realize this girl is incompetent and take care of it so he doesn't have to worry as much. I hope things improve for him soon!
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Wow! He sounds really stressed! Poor guy
Can you guys go on a long walk together to get a little exercise? I feel like long walks are relaxing and soothing.
Does he play Xbox or anything? DH will stay up late playing that when he is stressed and swears it helps.