Babies at baby showers

jessicah628 · January 2012

What are your thoughts about babies (under 1 y.o.) being included at baby showers? And if you are a new mom and get a shower invite that doesn't specify, do you assume your baby is or is not invited?

My mom isn't sure what to do about this for my shower. There could potentially be as many as 7 babies at my shower if all little ones attended.

I don't have an opinion one way or the other, for the record.

jessica0602 · January 2012

For me as a guest, it depends on the shower (the mom and location). I'm more inclined to bring the kid if it's at a house. At a restaurant, I'd most likely leave him home, unless it's a close friend or family.

amy052006 · January 2012

I feel like babies are fair game at baby showers, especially those under one. I am very anti bringing kids most places, but baby showers are an exception to me for no apparent reason.

I would try to ditch my kid first, but if DH was otherwise occupied, I would bring my infant to a baby shower.

Temp422773312507524 · January 2012

I think it depends on the venue. At someones house? Probably not a big deal. Restaurant? I don't think so. Honestly, it's been a long time since I've been to a baby shower with any children there. I had two showers, one at a house, one at a restaurant and there were no babies at either.

I would assume no babies if the invitation doesn't specify.

lachute · January 2012

kids were invited to my shower. it was nbd.

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ladybug1211 · January 2012

Baby showers (either at a home, or even a restaurant) are the one place that I'd feel comfortable bringing a baby even if it wasn't specified on an invitation.

Shannon1110 · January 2012

Sorry for the dup

Shannon1110 · January 2012

Shannon1110:
amy052006:
I feel like babies are fair game at baby showers, especially those under one. I am very anti bringing kids most places, but baby showers are an exception to me for no apparent reason.
I would try to ditch my kid first, but if DH was otherwise occupied, I would bring my infant to a baby shower.
This. A lot of my relatives brought their kids which I was fine with because I don't get to see them a lot. You didn't even know the babies were there but the older kids were bored and rammy and ended up breaking picture frames and a few things on my sister's behind couch table (I don't know the proper term for those) because they started throwing pillows and their mom was not paying attention to them at all.
I think most women try to leave their kid at home so they can have a break but only bring them if necessary.

larrysdarling · January 2012

Young non mobile babies are fine, IMO, regardless of the location. Depending on the age they'll most likely sleep or get passed around.

Toddlers are a pita. They get into everything and unless it's a babyproofed home, nothing is going to be safe for them.

Don't know how you'd make that distinction. Also, I would prob leave my kid home unless she was young. It's nice to get out with other ladies w/o having to watch her constantly.

tracyd21 · January 2012

LandD052006:
I think it depends on the venue. At someones house? Probably not a big deal. Restaurant? I don't think so. Honestly, it's been a long time since I've been to a baby shower with any children there. I had two showers, one at a house, one at a restaurant and there were no babies at either.
I would assume no babies if the invitation doesn't specify.

Would you address an invite to Ms. X and Baby Y? Or just tell the person "feel free to bring Baby Y if you want"?

In my head, I'm picturing the bottom of the invite saying either "bring your own baby" or "no kids, please"...ha. just seems funny to me.

ETA: Also, I don't think I've ever been to a baby shower with kids present. Except one, and the baby was 5 weeks old.

amy052006 · January 2012

Something else to consider -- until he was about a year old, every outing without him was measured in "do I really feel like wasting breast milk on this" points. I had X amount of times to get out, let him have a pumped bottle and not necessarily be able to pump to replace it. I liked to use those points in bars.

NewQueen · January 2012

I've hosted many baby showers and always told the moms to bring their kids. I think it's great to have babies at baby showers.

jessicah628 · January 2012

Thanks, everyone. I think I'm going to tell my mom that she doesn't need to specify either way, but that if people ask, they're welcome to bring babies.

eSynergy · January 2012

I think it's normal to have babies at showers if it's at a house (or even a casual restaurant).

I was just invited to a baby shower, though, at someone's house I don't know. The invititation didn't specifically invite DS so I wasn't going to take him.

Question 1: Do you think it's wierd for me to call the woman who is hosting and see if people are bringing kids? I also won't know very many ppl there so it'd be nice to have a distraction and an excuse to leave early (hah).

Question 2: The mom-to-be already had the baby (super early) and I don't know if the shower is even still happening. I do'nt even know if the baby is still in the NICU. I'm assuming it is unless I hear otherwise. I don't know if it's a surprise party, so I can't ask the mom if the shower is still on. I also don't know the mom super well (she's my realtor).

larrysdarling · January 2012

eSynergy:
I think it's normal to have babies at showers if it's at a house (or even a casual restaurant).

I was just invited to a baby shower, though, at someone's house I don't know. The invititation didn't specifically invite DS so I wasn't going to take him.

Question 1: Do you think it's wierd for me to call the woman who is hosting and see if people are bringing kids? I also won't know very many ppl there so it'd be nice to have a distraction and an excuse to leave early (hah).

Question 2: The mom-to-be already had the baby (super early) and I don't know if the shower is even still happening. I do'nt even know if the baby is still in the NICU. I'm assuming it is unless I hear otherwise. I don't know if it's a surprise party, so I can't ask the mom if the shower is still on. I also don't know the mom super well (she's my realtor).

Hmm, maybe call about the party but leave the kid bringing issue out of it? Also, if your kid is at home then you have an even better excuse to leave early.

eSynergy · January 2012

larrysdarling:
eSynergy:
I think it's normal to have babies at showers if it's at a house (or even a casual restaurant).

I was just invited to a baby shower, though, at someone's house I don't know. The invititation didn't specifically invite DS so I wasn't going to take him.

Question 1: Do you think it's wierd for me to call the woman who is hosting and see if people are bringing kids? I also won't know very many ppl there so it'd be nice to have a distraction and an excuse to leave early (hah).

Question 2: The mom-to-be already had the baby (super early) and I don't know if the shower is even still happening. I do'nt even know if the baby is still in the NICU. I'm assuming it is unless I hear otherwise. I don't know if it's a surprise party, so I can't ask the mom if the shower is still on. I also don't know the mom super well (she's my realtor).
Hmm, maybe call about the party but leave the kid bringing issue out of it? Also, if your kid is at home then you have an even better excuse to leave early.

After talking to a work friend, this is exactly what I'm going. Calling about the party, not bringing up the kid thing (and plan to leave him home). You're right...it's an even better excuse to leave.

eaglesfan700 · January 2012

I would not assume that my baby was invited and would either not attend or not bring him/her. When Charlie was a month or so old, I was invited to a baby shower and declined, and the MTB totally understood. She didn't say "Oh you should have brought him!"

Clearly I am in the minority, but I have only been to maybe one shower that had kids there. Given my experience, I wouldn't call and ask, I would just assume no - unless specifically told that babies were welcome

OctoberBabyH · January 2012

Kids were invited to my shower and I didn't mind.

I'd try to go to a shower without my daughter just to have a little break, but I also would not mind bringing her along.

MsKellDel · January 2012

I would never assume my baby/child is invited unless specifically stated. However I do think babies should be welcomed at showers. If nothing else, they at least provide some entertainment to what can be a very long boring three hour event

bleubook · January 2012

Infants, yes, assume they are invited. toddlers, etc, then assume they are not invited.

mzovoce · January 2012

larrysdarling:
Young non mobile babies are fine, IMO, regardless of the location. Depending on the age they'll most likely sleep or get passed around.
Toddlers are a pita. They get into everything and unless it's a babyproofed home, nothing is going to be safe for them.
Don't know how you'd make that distinction. Also, I would prob leave my kid home unless she was young. It's nice to get out with other ladies w/o having to watch her constantly.

this 100%

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