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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Nagging Leads to Divorce
Anyone else read this Wall Street Journal Article:
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970203806504577180811554468728.html
While I have not left a post-it note in my husband's sandwich, the planner in me is constantly nagging my laid-back attorney husband. Made me glad that I am not the only one. What do you all do to avoid nagging?
Re: Nagging Leads to Divorce
i prioritize and i've learned to let things go.
he will do things in his own time, and if they don't get done in time to prevent a consequence, oh well.
I've learned to either let things go - he'll do them on his schedule.
OR
I'll do whatever it is myself so I don't have to keep nagging and he doesn't have to hear it... then I get the response of "I would have done it". etc.
Yep, this is me.
Most recently though, i've just starting doing things myself instead of even asking. He does some things without needing to be asked (take the trash out, empty the dishwasher, stuff like that)... sometimes i'll plan to do bigger things (that he should be doing) when he's around, and then i'll huff and puff while i'm doing it (like it's hard for me to do or something), and he'll end up saying "here, let me do that". Totally passive aggressive - but it gets the job done!
We make the rockin' world go 'round.
As I have stated on here numerous times- my hubz is OCD neat so clean house/car/etc... is never an issue. I am sure he would love to nag me about the state of my shoe collection or the fact that my clothes are not ordered by color and type like his. However, we have always followed the 'if you ask me to do something, you than can't tell me how you want it done' rule and it works for us. If either of us want things done a 'certain' way, we have to do it ourselves.
Before DD was born, I had heard from many friends that I needed to let him figure out how to do things for her and never judge. It was hard not to insert my opinions because he was doing things different than me but the benefits of that are awesome.
Not sure if that helps? Also, I think I have far too many other things going on to nag.