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Give it back or not?

I babysit twice a week for $40/day.  They pay me a couple weeks at a time.  A couple weeks ago, the mom called me first thing in the morning saying the kiddo seemed sick and she was going to keep her home.  Should I give her back the $40 for that day?  I feel like I should, but honestly, it's already spent and $ is tight for us right now.  Not that $40 is going to kill us.  Money is tight for them, too, and I'm sure I will give it back.

What am I obligated to do?

What is the right thing to do?

What would you do?

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Re: Give it back or not?

  • What am I obligated to do?

    What is the right thing to do?

    What would you do? That's a tough one. If it were me I'd offer it back BUT if I were the mom I wouldn't expect it back and tell you to keep it. I can't comment on the situation because I honestly don't know. If I was the mom in the situation I wouldn't ask for it.

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  • I would offer to give it back or keep it and sit for "free" the next time.
  • Are you going to babysit for them again?  If so, I'd just expect less next time and things will even out.  I would tell her to pay $40 less next time.

    Although, if it was a daycare, I'm sure you'd be out $40 if your kid was sick.

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  • i'm guessing this is "unofficial", all under the table style, no contract, or anything......right? and it was never discussed?

    i don't think you are *obligated* to give it back, but i do think the "right" thing to do would be to give it back.

    if money is seriously seriously tight, i'd ask her if you can split it, and then talk about what would happen in the future.

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  • I watch the kid every week.  She paid me this week with nothing taken out.  I was waiting to see what she was going to do.  I half thought she'd just pay me for one day this week instead of two, but she didn't.  So, now I'm here at deciding.  I am going to just give it back to her.  We aren't so tight, that it would mean we'd miss anything to not have the $, but when $ is even slightly tight, it's hard to "give away" money, although it's technically refunding for services not rendered.  And yes, it's all "just between friends."  Nothing official. 

    Like pp mentioned, I don't think she expects it, at all, to be returned, but I would feel like a heal if I just let it go.

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  • Are you obligated? No.

    Is it the right thing? Yes, sorta.

    What should you do? Since it's already spent and money is tight (for both of you), then I would just tell her to short pay by $40 the next time she pays you to make it up. I'm assuming Jennlin is correct that it's an unofficial capacity thing. Do you babysit for other people, as in by canceling last minute you lost some way of making revenue an alternate way? If that were the case, then maybe a half fee of $20. But if she's the only one you sit for and it didn't preclude other money-making opportunities, then I would just sit for free one of the next time.

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  • imageuwhuskygirl:
    I would offer to give it back or keep it and sit for "free" the next time.
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    I would offer to give it back or keep it and sit for "free" the next time.
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  • I'd offer to give it back, but maybe say you'll hang onto it as a "credit" for a future babysitting job?
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  • imagepicksthemusic:
    I'd offer to give it back, but maybe say you'll hang onto it as a "credit" for a future babysitting job?

    ditto.  I'm in the "hey, you only need to pay for one time this week since you missed a day before" camp.  I realize it's sort of a 'business' like a daycare, but it's not and I would feel guilty holding on to it (especially if I knew they weren't rich either).

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