Can I vent about my baby shower?

bbetson · January 2012

And by baby shower I mean, the one that nobody is throwing us. ( We have lived in Nashville for 7 years and I do have some friends throwing me a small shower. I am sooo excited about it. What makes me and DH sad is that nobody from our hometowns have even mentioned a baby shower. We are both still very connected to our hometowns, so we are disappointed by this. I even threw my sil a shower a few years ago.

I am not trying to sound spoiled,but it is disappointing. I have a fear that somebody will offer in A few weeks and we will have to decline. His hometown is over three hours away and mine is over 7 hours away, so it would require time off work and serious travel (at least to get to my hometown ) .

Okay, pity party over.

LaurenSweat · January 2012

I totally feel you on this. My mom had a shower for me and it was my only one. DHs family was supposedly going to do something after the baby was born--- well, he's 19 months old and not a peep was ever uttered after. I was grateful for the one I had, but still am a little sad.... especially when I get invited to baby showers from the people who didn't celebrate me at all.

MrsG.060708 · January 2012

I feel for you. I never got a shower either...and my sister, who irresponsibly got knocked up, DID get one...

Oh, and the aunt who ruined the shower I was supposed to have when pregnant with Taryn did offer to throw one for me during my second pregnancy...IF I would've had a boy.

JNicMTek · January 2012

I'm sorry. I would be hurt by that as well.

Casperdy · January 2012

I completely understand the vent. I was home for a week and my mom tried to do a shower/brunch for my extended family (that I am very close to) and non one was interested. Oh well. I have some friends here doing a small shower as well, and I'm looking forward to seeing a lot of my favorite people there.

Could your DH mention it to someone in your hometown? DH actually asked his sister if she was going to do a shower for me since I did one for her...(not sure if it will happen because of the family stuff but he had to ask her since it never came up).

bbetson · January 2012

Casperdy:
I completely understand the vent. I was home for a week and my mom tried to do a shower/brunch for my extended family (that I am very close to) and non one was interested. Oh well. I have some friends here doing a small shower as well, and I'm looking forward to seeing a lot of my favorite people there.
Could your DH mention it to someone in your hometown? DH actually asked his sister if she was going to do a shower for me since I did one for her...(not sure if it will happen because of the family stuff but he had to ask her since it never came up).

I have thought about mentioning it to my mom, but I dont want her to feel bad about it. I think my mom feels it should be somebody else to throw it and not her. It's just an awkward situation.

And it's sad that sooo many of us have had similar experiences.