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I think I might want to have a baby.
Not tomorrow, or anything.
But the thought is less "OMG not me" and more "I want one. Like, soon."
I love me some babies. Especially under one year, when they don't run away from you and you can leave them in one place and they'll stay there.
But I find children annoying. I love them, but they can be really loud sometimes. I never thought I could love someone like I love my nieces and nephews, but I give a sigh of relief when I get to go home to my quiet house with my cats.
And I'm extremely lazy.
I'm definitely not ready, but the thought that it could be a reality soon is freaking.me.out.
This is normal right?
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Re: I think I might want to have a baby.
As do I. Majorly.
Ditto.
Yep!
I am really hoping that it's true that you feel 1000x different with your own children than other peoples.. Because I definitely get annoyed by all of my friends kids pretty quickly.
The thing that it came down to for us was when we look at our lives in 20 years, we picture it as a family with kids.. not just us. So you gotta start somewhere to make that happen, right?
Totally, totally normal. I had a lot of those thoughts throughout my pregnancy. And even now, I still have a WTF did I do???? moment.
I also find most kids annoying. You won't when it's your own.
I am generally lazy and dislike most children (and parents for that matter).
Those things don't preclude you from having a baby at all.
first thought- w ed rendell?
moving on from that.... totally normal. i was still thinking these things while i was pregnant. i just kept reminding myself that they don't pop out as mouthy 3 year olds that you can't control or reason with. you have a few years to impact them and mold them (and enjoy their baby-ness) before that happens.
Kids usually annoyed/exhausted me, too, but it changes when you have your own.
You'll still be exhausted with your own kid, but it's a totally different feeling.
Yes we do! Don't worry, it won't be for another year or two. We don't have the room and I'm still in graduate school.
I like my child.
I like well behaved children.
The nesties seems to be all amazing parents because all their children have great temperaments. Sure everyone has a bad day but I have never ever CRINGED at the child or parent of a nestie. and trust me i cringe a lot.
I think I am in perma cringe mode at the Treehouse.
On Wednesday, a kid covered in snot ran over to the kitchen set, held a block over his head Say Anything boom box style, and coughed all over everything and everyone. No adult near him, no one stopping him, no one apologizing on his behalf. Kids do stuff, but good god have the tact to be mortified on their behalf.
I might have said "You have to be effing kidding me" slightly louder than under my breath.
ditto this.
i also loved being an aunt but also loved giving her back and coming home to my quiet house. but at some point i liked the idea of my house not being quiet ( if that makes sense) and coming home to my own kid. sounds like you're reaching that point too.
and this is totally normal.
TJW arrived 7/28/11
It is comforting to know that my feelings are normal.
My #1 fear is that kids are not undoable. Everything in my life can be undone- my job, my living situation, even my marriage. But once you have a kid, that's it. No going back. And I'm afraid of being a crappy parent or hating being a parent.
I have no question that DH will be a great parent. It's me I'm worried about.
A girl I went to high school with wrote this on facebook the other day:
"So like Mother like Daughter- today a 14 month old boy took Ella's toy that she was playing with. She yelled at him in baby babble and took her toy back. He then tried to take it again so she pulled it back and pulled his hair. That's my girl ?"
Wow, great parenting skills there. She's proud of that behavior?
This is exactly me. And I'm currently PG, so I might be screwed.
You would not believe what shitthead parents think is acceptable with a 14 m/o.
I have a 14 month old -- they have no concept of sharing. None. They have zero malicious intent, either. When he takes something from a kid, if it looks like a breakdown is brewing, I redirect him with something else. It is as if parents of older children forget what it was like when their kids were younger.
Monday at the PTM, a much older child (probably too old for the exhibit) was hogging every.single.duck at the baby duck water table. Finally, DS cruised over and grabbed one. This kid broke into hysterics, and the mom responded, "Oh, I know you are sad he took your duck." WTF? THEN, he pushed my kid away (slightly,he didn't fall or anything, and truthfully was not phased).
There are a million and one reasons that kid needed that duck -- I would never say anything or even ask the kid to give up a duck because who knows, he could have any sort of development issues that are not visible to me. But he had every duck -- if you aren't going to stop talking to your friend to move the situation along, at least have the good grace to look at me and acknowledge the situation is awkward for all involved!
i try to redirect alot, redirecting is key! the thing i hate about he new PTM is that way to old of kids are now there. Ptm was created for children 6 and under. It was smaller and easier to handle at the old location too.
This is why it took us 9 years of marriage to finally decide to give nature a chance. : )
You are not alone in these thoughts at all - we were (and still are up to a point), right there with you!
That wil not help. I love me some newborn baby. It might make it worse.
My 18 month old nephew came over once. We blinked and he was on the other side of the apartment, in another room, already into something. How do they do that?
My nieces and nephew seem to always think my house is like no rules house when they visit. Like my nephew at Milo's party jumped on my couchlike it was a bed and ran up to my window seat/heater and went to open our window. Our windows are old and drop, easily he could have lost a body part. Opening windows/ jumping on couches are not allowe at his home. I know my sil yelled quickly at him but seriously what about my house yells with stuff.
i think your feelings are totally normal. And I also think kids are annoying, including my own sometimes
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