It's slow, so I'm gonna post a story

There's this girl I know who graduated a year ahead of my at my high school. Her group of friends and mine overlapped sometimes. She's nice enough, but I was never really friends with her because she's kinda boring.

She graduated in 2003, and I never saw her again until last year when I ran into her because she worked at one of the Best Buy stores I go to. So we've chatted a little bit friended each other in facebook. She had a boyfriend when we first reconnected but she got engaged somewhere in the beginning of the year last year.

So every time I would go to her store, I would ask her how wedding plans were coming. They had a date set for somewhere in 2013 so she couldn't really do much to prep as it was so far away. 

Over the summer she moved in with her fiance to somewhere near where I live, and transferred to the Best Buy right down the street from me. She wanted to get together, a few times but it never really worked out.

On Monday I was talking to her because I was setting something up in her department, she was telling me that she and her FI were having problems. That he never saw himself moving out of the city where I live, that he's lived here his whole life and doesn't want to leave. While she and I grew up in a tiny little village (it doesn't even qualify as a town) in the middle of 10 miles of farm, she wanted to live somewhere in the middle. So she could have some land and horses like she was used to growing up. (I grew up in the middle of the town, we didn't have land, but my DH and her grew up on the outer edge where there is) 

Then she tells me that her FI is thinking of pushing back the wedding two more years so his dad can come. When I asked her why, she said that FFIL works out of town and wouldn't be able to make it. When I questioned further, she broke and told me that FFIL is IN JAIL. He got arrested in a "to catch a predator" style police setup where he thought he was meeting a 14-year old. EEEEKKK!! And since she revealed that little tidbit, she told me how it had been an issue since it happened (which apparently was recently) because she wouldn't feel comfortable with her kids future kids around FIL. Which is understandable. And that if they did push back the wedding 2 more years, she would be 30 when they got married.

And one final comment she shared as I was leaving the store "and he says he doesn't want to get a dog because he thinks it will tie us down."

Despite everything else, this was a big red flag for me. I didn't say anything to her, but in my mind I was thinking "this guy is unhappy, he is making excuses and trying to make it your fault why." 

The next morning her status is "Hurting but glad to be home. Hate the damn city."

Which I kinda figured was going to happen. I guess he broke off their engagement and the relationship. I feel so bad for her. I'm pretty sure he was her only boyfriend ever, just because she's shy and used to be fat (she looks great now, but still wears the same clothes) and is just kinda a plain personality. I was never engaged before DH, but I'm sure being engaged for almost a year, then FI breaking it off must be devastating. And now she doesn't live with him, so she has to drive an hour to work every day. Poor girl, I feel so bad for her.

(end of incredibly long story)