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Fuuuuuudge....I screwed up. :(
I forgot my new Father in Law's birthday. Crap!!! It was just 2 days ago and I sent an e-card. I suck. But we never ever talk on the phone, so it's so weird to call him. I talk to MIL quite a bit but not FIL. I hope he doesn't hate me now. 
This makes me wonder, how often do you speak to your father in law? how about mother in law? I'm sure you are all better than me and at least call on their birthdays right? I CAN'T BELIEVE I FORGOT!!!! 
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Re: Fuuuuuudge....I screwed up. :(
Did your FIL's son forget his dad's birthday?
I think my husband and I may be weirdos because we completely take care of our own families. I have never, in 5 plus years, ever talked to my FIL on the phone and have talked to my MIL twice--both times about legal questions. My H has only ever talked to my parents to pass the phone to me. We both really like our ILs.
my FIL is DEAD!
wait, isn't this your H's issue?
I hardly ever talk to my MIL, my H calls her every Sunday, but I think the last time I talked to her was when she wanted to recomend a book. before that it was probably when she stayed with us 2 years ago, we get along fine, but there's just no need to talk. she's in FL, we're in MA.
I actually love my in laws. They are the sweetest people....in person. It's me. I get all awkward on the phone though. I'm getting better with Matt's mother, but I never have any reason to talk to his dad on the phone. In person we shoot the breeze just fine, and it's great. I just feel inconsiderate, especially since this is the first birthday as a "daughter in law". I feel like I"m supposed to give it that extra effort.
But, as you said Fallin, we kind of take care of our own families. DH remembered to call (in fact I'm a little pissed he didn't wait til I got home from work so I could say happy birthday too). But generally I worry about my family's events/occasions and he worries about his. Still, I guess I just feel more pressure now that we're married. I blew it. ARG!!!
Dude. If you've established that you handle your own families, don't feel the pressure to change because you're married. It sounds like you all get along so don't change what works.
I think somehow women often get stuck in charge of all family birthdays when they get married and get pressured to suddenly be BFFs with their MILs because they have vaginas. Men do not seem to have that pressure. People --including my aunt-- have actually commented that they think it's weird we don't talk. No one ever seems to find it strange my H doesn't call up my dad for chats. I think that's BS.
I respect and like my MIL. She's a wonderful woman who raised a great man, but we have nothing in common. I can't fathom what on earth we would chat about on the phone. We aren't going to be buddies and that's okay.
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Eh, My hubby can barely remember when his parents birthdays are.
I take care of remembering my families birthdays. We're pretty casual about birthdays in my family, a text is the most common way to acknowledge a birthday. I usually remind DH that it's so and so's birthday and then he sends a text if he wants to.