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My ex continues to make me laugh. Long, sorry.
I haven't ever posted here but found my way over from the bump and just wanted to share this, to get it off my chest...
So when my ex and I broke up, I held all the debt from our relationship since all the credit cards, the cars, etc, were in my name. But, being young and trusting, there weren't legal documents drawn up to outline his having to help pay down that debt in the event we split up. We did split up, obviously, over money - surprise!
He has claimed several times to be willing to pay me money owed, even naming specific things like $15,000. (Which is not even half of the combined debt, for the record.) But he never does. Most recently he sent a Christmas card claiming "I'm going to give you the money I owe you, no strings attached, just let me know how."
I sent him back a letter as response that said, "In a check. Sent to this same address." I have no desire to be friendly with him given the circumstances. Today he sent back two pages of nonsense about how he is not paying me because I'm not asking him nicely, even writing up how I should have asked him for the money. He also added "I am not going to be disrespected because you changed your entire sexual orientation on me" implying I am now a lesbian. This is untrue, and even if it was, irrelevant. Being a lesbian does not mean you don't owe me anymore. Also - how is it disrespectful to have you initiate contact, and me to respond appropriately???
My favorite part is his statement, "Take me to court, you won't win."
Dude - ever heard of breach of written contract? And thanks for the idea. I'll be filing on Monday.
PS. Actually my favorite part might be this gem: "Also I am warning you and your family that if anyone comes here again to try to inflict any damage whatsoever to me, my property, or cats, that it will be dealt with in a manner that you will NOT want to occur." I have no idea what he is referencing or why he thinks I will do something to his cats specifically.
Re: My ex continues to make me laugh. Long, sorry.
Were you married? If you were (and divorced) what does your divorce decree state about marital debt
I would take his Christmas card (and any other written proof) and have a consultation with a lawyer. Bring your documentation for the debt (including a breakdown of purchases that can be directly attributed to your ex) and seek his opinion. Perhaps you can sue him for the entire amount. Perhaps you can sue him in increments in small claims court. Explore the options.
No, we weren't married. But I did talk to a lawyer who said the breach of written contract was enough against him to get money back, especially since he's cited exact figures. I will probably just seek the maximum in small claims so I don't have to hire a lawyer. Even if I don't get awarded the money, I hope doing it will make it clear to my ex I'm done with him acting like a child.
If you can send me a letter, you can send me a check, you know? Obviously you are just looking to get back into my life. Stop trying.