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Sexual appetite increased
I know that after a while, in the marriage, things are not as good as they used to be and I am referring especially to the aspect of sex.
What are your tricks for maintaining your husband attracted to you?
How do you manage to make him want you more and more?
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Re: Sexual appetite increased
You use the word "tricks" here. That is not how to maintain a spark. If you want a good sexual relationship, communication is key rather than "trickery". If you are open and honest about what you want, chances are that he will follow suit.
Other than that, make an effort to have intimate time with your husband. The more you do it, the more you both will want to!
by making time for each other and continuing to 'try'
after the kids go to sleep DH and talk, it can be about anything. about a month ago he spent a night teaching me how to play chess, we haven't really played board games in a while but now that our youngest has started to STTN i might drag them out of the attic we talk about our hopes and dreams and plans for the future and we talk about sex what is and isn't working for us
i honestly believe that if the relationship is kept strong the sex life will remain strong too
Not sure what you mean by this because as someone said earlier there should be no "tricks" or that tricks seems to be a misleading word.
To keep that spark going can take a lot of effort on the female's part in many cases. Think sexy is all I can tell you. If you have no children yet than there is more than enough opportunity to play with this thought. Walk around your home nude. Cook in sexy lingerie. Wear that lipstick or lip gloss that make your lips ultra pouty. You are a sexy being who has a body worthy to be worshiped so make it so! Go to the gym. Have one or two days a week where you eat naughty and eat clean the rest of the week. Adore the good points of yourself in the mirror and when you feel sexy your husband has no choice but to take notice and "go for it"!
If you have kids, it becomes more creative but is still possible. I like many of the ideas that some of the prior posters have said. Make games out of it when the kids are asleep. Schedule it in which may make it sexier. Make sure to take off to a near by hotel or B&B for a weekend a month of just the two of you. Sex is the time to rekindle, reconnect and rediscover intimacy with each other. Enjoy the adventure!
I like the theory that if the relationship is strong then the sex is only a small part of it. If it is poor than it is 99% of the relationship. Be friends first, then if there are concerns you can work through it.
That being said, you may like a couple of books
http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/101-nights-of-grrreat-sex-laura-corn/1102503631?ean=9780962962813&itm=2&usri=101+nights+of+great+sex
and the 101 Romantic Nights.
Try candles, lingerie and music. Good communication is key. Ask your husband what he likes.
Katie