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Must step away from the FB...
I really need to stop commenting on my family's FB posts.
My cousin's current status is a long rant about how his daughter got her phone taken away today at school and "why the hell couldn't they give it back to her after class so that she and her brother and sister wouldn't be 'endangered by not having a phone' on the way home and he wouldn't have to be bothered with picking it up for her after work."
You really drove to your kids high school after work to get her phone so she wouldn't be without it until tomorrow morning?? Shame on you. This "branch" of the family has that "blame everyone but yourself and your kids" approach to child rearing that makes me nuts. (To say the very least it's the polar opposite of how I was raised. I fought my own battles and if I was unjustly punished it was up to me to make it right. As far as my dad was concerned, if you don't want somebody to think you're misbehaving, don't put your behavior in a gray area.)
But I digress.
My reply to his latest post was "If not having it means putting herself and her brother and sister at risk - and inconveniencing a parent by having them pick it up at the end of the day - then maybe she should stay off of it during class. And if she doesn't, maybe she can live without it until the next morning. Just a thought..." Which, of course, went right over his head. I don't know why I even bother. I really need to block them all from my wall before I completely estrange myself from this part of the family.
Anyway, long story short, I have so much respect and empathy for the sh!t that teachers put up with these days.
Re: Must step away from the FB...
They're so special.
*hugs* to you - we all have those folks on our feed, I think, and I know *I* go through that struggle regularly: to comment or not to comment? I have issues keeping my mouth shut (I know this is a huge shock to everyone), so I often end up embroiled in online battles that drive me nutso.
It's definitely parents like this that make my job hard.
But thanks for the support. This generation of kids is scary....I hope all of our kids can change that!
You have my respect and support and awe. I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be.
They really are the classic nightmare parents. Nothing is ever their kids' fault. It's been going on for generations. Their dad's parents were the exact same way.
Anyway, I think I'm just going to block them. Way too irritable for FB these days.
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
Ditto. The sense of entitlement is scary, and there is such a lack of taking ownership for one's actions. It's so much easier to blame someone else.
miscarriage on 11/26/09 at 5w6d
So so so true. It really does make our job, as the teacher, 1000x harder.
... every single day of forever.
Ugh, they sound.....interesting. I would hide them if possible. I've learned to just hide a lot of stuff on FB, not worth it otherwise.
I hate parents who think their kids can do no wrong - my SIL's parents were like that and SIL and my brother are becoming like that, which is funny to me bc like you Rags, we were raised the complete opposite. But apparently when SIL was in third grade her mom was the one who was up at school every week wanting to know why she hadn't gotten an A on this worksheet (um because she got 4 wrong?) and everything else (we know this bc my mom's best friend's daughter was in that class and she and SIL used to be really close, so 20 years later we got the scoop, ha!)
It also makes you feel defensive I think - my mom has always been very, um, open, about our failings, and then she gets hit with comments from certain of her friends that are like "my children would NEVER do that, they know better." Except we're friends with her chidren and I can tell you they certainly DO do that..........but I guess you can't admit your children are less than perfect.....
/rant and tangent.
so yeah, I'd block. The block/hide feature on facebook is so great. It keeps me so sane I think.
OMG. I think that would make my head explode.
I wish parents were this supportive, Rags. I often have parents say, "Well they were just texting me back..." and I want to say "Well then don't text your kid in school when they *should* be learning."
Our school implemented a new policy this year that says that if your cell is confiscated you have to wait until Thursday to pick it up. It didn't make a bit of difference though. Kids now have 2 cell phones with them, one is real and one is fake so they can turn in the "fake one" and keep their real one.
And, in response to your cousin, kids have been able to make it home from school for hundreds and thousands of years without a cell phone. I think his daughter could have done it too...
MyBio
It didn't end prettily last night. I got pissed and spoke my mind and then they brought in the "big guns" - their mother (who also happens to be Brad's sister, if y'all missed that funny little glitch in my family tree) - who all but told me off for "feeling the need to voice my opinion". Apparently the school is SO very dangerous that it's unacceptable for her not to have a direct line of contact to her at all times. I swear, sometimes I wonder how any of us even survived back in the day.
Anyway, all of this sounds like a really good reason to keep your phone put away so it won't get confiscated.
Also sounds like a really good reason to stop blowing so much money on crap and put your kid private school - but that's another story entirely.
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
Rags- Speaking of glitches in family trees...
When my parents were children my Maternal Grandfather (Mom's Dad) briefly dated my Paternal Grandmother (Dad's Mom)! So may parents met as kids because their parents dated. They broke up because Granny fooled around with Pop-Pop's brother (my Mom's Uncle)!
In the early 1950's there were only a few italian familes in the area where they lived so apparently they all dated each other at one time or another.
Omg that's hilarious!! Was this in Baltimore?
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
Wait- Your aunt is also your SIL? How does that work?
DH and I share cousins- my dad's first cousin is married to my DH's aunt.
My husband's sister (my sister-in-law) is married to my cousin. No bloodline overlap, but my cousin is also my brother-in-law.
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
Lol!!
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d