Did we see the bride on FM?

Re: Did we see the bride on FM?

• julie324

  January 2012

   

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  01-28-2012 at 2:57 PM

  libby1990 Joined on 11-25-2010 1 Posts 45 Points --> Brother's Wedding?! --> Okay, so I'll try to make this not so long. But my brother who is three years older than me has always been the type of brother who has tried to make my life miserable. He's told me i'm fat, stupid, dumb, ugly, that i'm not permitted to eat at certain times, that I'm not aloud to park in certain spots, etc. He's pretty much terrible. My fiance can't stand him and says he can't stand how he treats me. So me and my fiance got engaged on this past Easter (it was part of the easter egg hunt, super cute). We had only been together for a year, but part of that was long distance (I was in upstate ny, and he was here in jersey), so that obviously brought us very close together. So we've been planning our wedding obriously for a while, we were planning it for May 19th, everyone knew our date, we had sent out save the dates, and then, our venue called and said they made a mistake and double booked our wedding and that we had to change our date...so in distress we ended up changing our date to June 9th, and resent out save the dates (we called them "take twos" and had a cute little action sign from the movies, to make light of the situation). So now we've been planning this new date for a good three months. My brother, who has been in compitition with me since the day I was born, has been dating this chick who lives 30 minutes away (they call it long distance, bull *** if you ask me). They had been dating for 7 months when he popped the question on her this past Tuesday. Now before he did that, (the sunday before) he showed me the ring and started comparing my ring that my fiance gave to me to the ring he was giving to her! saying that his was better and that mine was small and blah blah. even though mines between a 1/2 and a 3/4 and his is a 3/4 so it's not even that big of a difference. So anyways, then he popps the question. and she says yes. Yesterday, they both sat down with my parents and were talking about the wedding date. I was at work, i figured they'd pick something not in the near future. Next thing I know, he sends out a mass text to EVERYONE on his contact list (including me) that "Our wedding date is July 7th, Save the Date!" !!!!!!! It's less than a month away from mine, he didn't even ask me if that was okay with me. And, all of my relatives (30 total) are flying in for mine, and now they're expected to fly out twice? or chose between weddings?! and my grandma so old and takes traveling hard. I don't know what to do. Thoughts or advice on the issue? Is it wrong for me to be upset about this?

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  01-28-2012 at 3:24 PM

  Maybride2 Joined on 07-02-2003 Michigan 11,220 Posts 46,125 Points --> --> The 1990 in your screen name is for the year you were born, right?   It shows.

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  01-28-2012 at 3:31 PM

  mbcdefg Joined on 03-28-2009 New Jersey 3,231 Posts 23,686 Points --> --> He doesn't need to ask your permission. Your relatives can decide for themselves which wedding they want to attend, if they can't attend both. Both you and your brother sound like gigantic babies.

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  01-28-2012 at 3:34 PM

  KappaK Joined on 01-13-2008 Largo, FL 526 Posts 3,063 Points --> --> It is ridiculous to be upset about this. Your weddings are just shy of a month apart. Who cares? You both sound like you have some serious growing up to do.

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  01-28-2012 at 3:49 PM

  JillyWtP Joined on 08-02-2009 ABQ New Mexico 5,193 Posts 18,706 Points --> --> So what is an acceptable timeframe around your wedding for people to get married? Two months? A year? You get ONE DAY. thats all. Your brother can plan his wedding for whenever he wants. The only day I think it would be ok to be upset would be the day of.

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  01-28-2012 at 3:58 PM

  magsugar13 Joined on 03-14-2007 14,967 Posts 72,925 Points --> --> bwaahhhhh lmao you want the knot honey this is the nest...im sure youll find a couple of other liitle ones to share your misery.

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  01-28-2012 at 4:05 PM

  livinitup Joined on 03-17-2006 new york 8,015 Posts 22,361 Points --> --> 2 of my DH's old high school friends got married one month apart and we flew in for both. They were both a blast. And each was different. I often have more than one wedding to go to in the same month or few months. Frankly, I love seeing my family and friends for weddings, having 2 within a month would sound fun to me.

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  01-28-2012 at 4:13 PM

  JoEsther Joined on 09-15-2009 San Francisco Bay Area 1,401 Posts 9,084 Points --> --> Not to be mean, but it honestly doesn't sound like either you or your brother are mature enough to get married. You know what the best way to get over another person's immature behavior? Ignore it. Fully. Don't think about it, don't vent about it (to anyone), don't spend any energy or time on it. Your brother will do what he wants to do. If he's a jerk about it (and I don't think he is being a jerk here, in regards to the date. We're talking a month apart!!), it's on him, not you. If you get sucked into the drama, then it's on you. Don't get sucked in.

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  01-28-2012 at 4:25 PM

  TarponMono... Joined on 01-14-2006 12,334 Posts 25,506 Points --> --> Might I ask why you keep in touch with such a jerk, boor and pig? If he is as toxic as you say he is, it's best that you just discontinue contact with him. Why do you need him at all? That said, do not worry about the dates. you'll have your spotlight; his bride will have hers and really, it's pretty common for siblings to have weddings scheduled closely together. Let that issue go.

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  01-28-2012 at 5:55 PM

  julie324 Joined on 02-13-2006 2,400 Posts 23,791 Points --> --> There is just about a month in between the dates. I am genuinely curious how much time you think is acceptable in between weddings. Talk to him calmly if you want him to change his date although a month is plenty of time.

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• athlete010688 member

  

  January 2012

  Bahaha!  She posted it on the knot as well.  That's where I first read it.  Guess she didn't like the answers she got from over there...

  

  

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• StatlerWaldorf

  January 2012

  While I was reading it, I thought she was going to pick the same date.  I just hope these two drama filled morons don't have a competition to see who has the first baby because you know that will be next.
  

  

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• cmeinla member

  

  January 2012

  I don't see the problem. Her wedding is first, she'll get better gifts.
  

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• magsugar13 member

  

  January 2012

  she has posted all over...lmao

  http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_brothers-wedding-2

  and then posted again in another persons stupid a$$ post..

  http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-trouble

  she has decided to call me retard now...lol her age keeps shining through

  
  
  

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• BowiesInSpace

  January 2012

  Sorry, I can't stop LMAO that her LTR brought her and her FI closer together. She's immature, even for a 21/22 year old, and marrying a stranger. That will not end well.

  And don't get me started on the brother who proposed to his girlfriend because he's in some kind of sick competition with his sister. What a lucky gal.

  Maybe they can get a 2-for-1 deal on the divorces.  

  This is my siggy.

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