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Grandchildren...
Do other people care about having the "first" grandchild, or the first girl or first boy grandchild? It seems like something that people in my circle seem to care about and I was just wondering what internet peeps think...
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Re: Grandchildren...
You mean being the procreator of the first grandchild?? In that case- no, I don't care one bit. There's enough love to go around.
I think that there is something special about it in the sense that this specific child made you a Grandparent just like your first child makes you a parent but it isn't something to get territorial about.
I was the oldest and only grandchild on my dads side for also 4 years. I'm still really close to my grandma.
My dd is the 5th on my side and #9 on DH's side. If anything, she is more spoiled by DH's family compared to the others since the next grandchild is 9 yrs older and a boy. Mollie's pile at Christmas was twice the size as the other kids. However, it could be because what the older kids want are more expensive.
I don't think it really makes a difference, but I will say that I think people go for the "excitement" factor...the first for a grandparent is always exciting. It may be a treat and they'll love all their grandchildren the same but the first is in some way special and exciting.
Case in point, we had the first grandchild (boy) on both sides of the family, both our folks were beyond crazy thrilled because they were going to be a grandparent...My FIL was even more over the moon from a guy standpoint because our son would be the first born grandchild, and it would be the namesake of the family carrying on the family last name. (its a guy thing I don't understand it)...My SIL got pregnant 6 months after me and they were very excited for them as well, but at christmas she announced that they're expecting #2 and there wasn't one ounce of excitement from either one of my IL's it was just kind of like "ok that's nice". Do I think they'll love the baby less, no, but its like opening a big shiney new gift when its the first one.
Hell no! I wasn't ready for kids when my niece was born. We have #2 and #3 in DH's family and the first grandkids in my family, but only because my sis isn't really interested in having kids. I guess I win by default there, but I didn't really care one bit.
In my circle of friends, I pretty much waited until most of my friends' kids were almost old enough to babysit my kids. Definitely no competition there either.
I think it's exciting when grandchildren come around, and in our situation, the grandparents were waiting a long time for the babies to happen. I didn't have the first on either side, but my DD is the first girl on my side.
As a non-first grandchild, I saw my grandmother give preferential treatment to my older brother because he was the first and she clearly favored him. She even brought him little presents on my birthday because she didn't want him to feel left out. It still is upsetting to me (I know, I should get over it after 30 years), but I've never been very close to this grandma and that's probably why. Other kids pick up on the "first" child thing.