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How would you handle this guest list?

I feel really dumb for asking this, but I can't figure out how to find out if H would want his brothers at his surprise bday party.

Both of his brothers live locally. One has grown kids and could/would hang out with us all night, but one has a toddler and would probably have to cut out after laser tag. 

He gets along really well with his brothers, but he doesn't hang out with them very often. 

How would you find out if I should invite the brothers or not? 

ETA: I've tried to bring it up slyly, but I can never get a straight answer from H. He usually responds "eh, yeah, I guess I'd invite them, but yeah..." 

Re: How would you handle this guest list?

  • I'd say if he get's along with them and they are close to the same age, invite them. Then they can decide if they want to come or not.

    As for how to find out IDK.. because that's super tricky with out letting DH find out what you are about so I would just go with his non-straight answer and invite them. 

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  • If it were me I would do it. Is number of people an issue?
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  • imageJohlise:

    I'd say if he get's along with them and they are close to the same age, invite them. Then they can decide if they want to come or not.

    As for how to find out IDK.. because that's super tricky with out letting DH find out what you are about so I would just go with his non-straight answer and invite them. 

    His brothers are like 13 and 15 years older than him, but they do get along pretty well. 


  • imageuwhuskygirl:
    imageJohlise:

    I'd say if he get's along with them and they are close to the same age, invite them. Then they can decide if they want to come or not.

    As for how to find out IDK.. because that's super tricky with out letting DH find out what you are about so I would just go with his non-straight answer and invite them. 

    His brothers are like 13 and 15 years older than him, but they do get along pretty well. 

     

    My next question would be is it going to be awkward with the others you are inviting that they are that much older.. if not.. I'd say go for it! 

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  • imagetherickson:
    If it were me I would do it. Is number of people an issue?

    Yeah, right now the guest list is sitting at 28 people. Only 20 people can play laser tag at a time and I don't want people to get bored just sitting around while we're rotating players. Either that or I need to think of a secondary activity for the people waiting to play laser tag.

  • imageJohlise:
    imageuwhuskygirl:
    imageJohlise:

    I'd say if he get's along with them and they are close to the same age, invite them. Then they can decide if they want to come or not.

    As for how to find out IDK.. because that's super tricky with out letting DH find out what you are about so I would just go with his non-straight answer and invite them. 

    His brothers are like 13 and 15 years older than him, but they do get along pretty well. 

     

    My next question would be is it going to be awkward with the others you are inviting that they are that much older.. if not.. I'd say go for it! 

    I don't think so, but I'm afraid that H might feel responsible for making sure that his brothers have a good time, since they'll only know each other. His brothers kind of know H's friends through Sounders games, but they don't know anyone well.

  • is any other family getting invited? if so, invite them.

    if it's just friends, i don't think it's necessary.

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  • i would invite them- the laser tag was mobile, right? at your house or something? video games or tv is a simple solution. or beer. 
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  • imagesarack:

    is any other family getting invited? if so, invite them.

    if it's just friends, i don't think it's necessary.

    No other family's invited. 

    Thanks! 

  • imagejennlin:
    i would invite them- the laser tag was mobile, right? at your house or something? video games or tv is a simple solution. or beer. 

    it is mobile, but it's not at my house. The venue doesn't allow alcohol and I don't think there are TVs available for us to use there.

  • imageuwhuskygirl:
    imagesarack:

    is any other family getting invited? if so, invite them.

    if it's just friends, i don't think it's necessary.

    No other family's invited. 

    Thanks! 

    you're welcome. add me to the list for cake. :) (yes, i'm inviting myself sometime for cake. and you love me so it's fine.)

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  • imagesarack:

    you're welcome. add me to the list for cake. :) (yes, i'm inviting myself sometime for cake. and you love me so it's fine.)

    You're totally getting cake!

  • imageuwhuskygirl:
    imagesarack:

    you're welcome. add me to the list for cake. :) (yes, i'm inviting myself sometime for cake. and you love me so it's fine.)

    You're totally getting cake!

    woot woot!

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  • I'd invite them. It might be a good opportunity for them to hang out! I'd invite MH's brothers to any party I was throwing for MH. I did last year and it was a blast! :)
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  • I'd invite them, they can decide if they want to come. Luckily, laser tag seems like an activity that you don't have to be all buddy-buddy with everyone to enjoy. Hmm...I don't know the location you're having it at, but could there be some alternate activities you can play while people rotate out? Depending on weather, would any of them enjoy old school like a mini round of croquet or bocce...or some card games like Apples to Apples or Uno?
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  • I would invite them as well. Family is important to my family so it wouldn't even be a second thought.
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