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I need to complain (I know, I know, that's all I do here)
I got a job working at the college I worked at the college I worked at before moving to the UK (not permanent, it's nothing exciting-job wise). I also got my job back at the clothes store where I worked before moving. Last night I wa driving home after a full day of working both jobs and it hit me that I am in the exact position I was in before moving. Literally.
I have the same 2 jobs, I live at home, everything is the same. No progress was made in 2 years. Nothing has changed. This is not the life I want. I'm sad and frusterated and I miss BF everyday and I just want us to be together.
Finding another job isn't happeneing right now and I can't move out because a) I don't have the money right now, b) even when I do make more money I'll be needing it for travel to see BF and c) even if I did move out, nothing would change, except I would have a lot less money.
I'm also really annoyed with my mom about my sister. I've mentioned that my sister should get ajob or do something (she literally doesn't leave the house ever), but apparantly doctors say that she shouldn't be working yet, but I don't believe that. She has 'anxiety', which she talks about non stop, and yet she's going to Mexico with my aunt on Thursday. So she can't work but international travel is a-ok. That's a load of crap.
Also, and this is petty, I'm annoyed at our current car situation. My mom and I work at the same place, and on days that I work my other job too I have to drive to the college seperately, which means I have to pay for parking, which is expensive. I've suggested that my mom and I go in together, then I take the car to my other job and my sister can pick up my mom, but no one wants to hear anything of this. Apparantly it makes better sense for me to pay an hours worth of my pay for parking, versus my sister having to get up out of the house for 45 mins to get my mom. The amount of driving and gas money is the same, so it annoys me that she isn't asked to even do this, a max of two times a week.
Ok, that is one long whining session. Thanks if you read 
Re: I need to complain (I know, I know, that's all I do here)
I have little to offer besides a sympathetic ear.
I think you need to start plotting your next move. Treading water while making money won't get you anywhere. But planning something while making money will.
So what's your next move?
Girl, it's ok. Although I would argue that you aren't in the same position. You are two years more experienced, travelled, and adventurous. There are experiences that can't be quantified. Your current jobs may be the same but are just temporary stopping points. You know there are way better things in the world to go pursue.
The issue with your sister is rough. I agree it doesn't make sense how she can vacation to Mexico but can't even manage a part-time job, or picking up your mom. So she can drive but only to things she wants to if their deemed fun enough? Total side-eye. Too bad the doctor won't tell her to get out of the house and practice getting over her anxiety.
Agree 100%. If you sit in one spot, then take a walk around the block and return to that same spot you can't say "I have been nowhere and done nothing, I've always just been right here in this chair".
On a related note, your sister can suck it. She's such a piece.
I honestly don't have a next move. I have no idea where I/boyfriend will be in the next year. I know I should carry on my life as though he's not in it, but the reality is that we plan to be together and that makes planning anything hard, because we don't know where we'll be in the near future.
The only thing I have keeping me sane is that I am obsessively planning my trip to see BF in May. I need that something to look forward to.
I'm so mad at my mom right now and I've been a passive aggressive biiitch to her all day.
I'm not all too familiar with your situation, but I can say that I've (sort of) been in your shoes.
When my then-BF moved to India (from San Francisco) in 2004, we had been dating for 2 years. We knew we wanted to be together long-term, but he had to settle himself in India before we could get married and I could move there. In the 2 years that we did long-distance, I was in limbo. I moved home to Hawaii, tried working for my mom (she's got her own stationary business), but I wasn't happy. I wasn't making enough money and I didn't really like living with my parents. Plus, I missed my BF.
I started scouting for jobs in metro cities I had friends in and luckily found a job back in San Francisco. I moved in with friends for a few months while I saved up enough to rent my own place and buy a car. All this time, BF and I would try to see each other in some part of the world. I loved him and I knew I wanted to be with him, BUT, I knew I had to go on with my life, too. I couldn't just sit by and do nothing - I wanted to further my career, travel more on my own, and just enjoy my 20s.
Things worked out for us in the end - we got married in 2006 and I became an IN.
I know it's hard and money issues always compound things even more. Good luck and I hope things work out for you!
a girl from Hawaii, living the expat experience in India.
No advice really, but I'm sorry you're dealing with all this. It's a crappy situation, to be sure, but I agree that you're not in the same exact place as you were two years ago. You as a person are far different now than you were then, and I'm sure that's adding to the discomfort you feel right now. I really hope it gets better for you and that you and BF can find a place where you can be together.
And I agree...it seems really odd that your sister can't work but can travel to Mexico. Very weird.