Do you have a group of friends that are a package deal?

Jennifer0807 · January 2012

One couple just cancelled on the XC ski trip b/c her H is getting laid off. I want to invite one other couple, but if I invite this one couple, I'd "have" to invite the other couple. Mostly b/c we are all close. And then if I invite that 2nd couple, I'd almost feel obligated to invite a 3rd for the same reason. I'm less close to the third, but this whole particular group is very close.

I'm not venting or complaining here. Just wondering if other people know what I mean about certain friends being a package deal.

erin0709 · January 2012

Yeah, our normal hangout group is like that, there are 7 of us that are pretty close. Almost all the time when I make plans with one of them it ends up being the wholoe group. Luckily I really like them all so I dont mind it most of the time, but in a vacation situation I could see how it could get sticky. Limited room & other folks there & such.

LizO11 · January 2012

As a friends deal type thing, not really. Though we do have a couple of friends who are inseparable from their spouses, which has made for a couple of really awkward "guys" night.

PSU_Grad · January 2012

Definitely. S will invite a few people to do something (i.e. tomorrow he's going to see the Car Show with a bunch of his dude friends), and then when he tells me who's going most of the time I think, "Oh, since you asked X, did you ask Y, too?" And then S is all like, "Oh... Yeah, I need to ask him, too."

I don't know if it's a gender thing, but I *always* think about that kind of stuff when organizing something with a bunch of people. And I also think of it in terms of who would not get along. There are some people that we just know won't (or haven't in the past) mesh well together, so I don't want to create an awkward situation.

gregslittlewifey · January 2012

Wellll, yes and no. We have a group of 4 childfree couples who we hang out with together regularly, and on most occassions if we invite one, we invite all. But, we've done things with just one couple, or two couples and not invited the others and there's no hurt feelings or anything.

Jennifer0807 · January 2012

erin0709:
Yeah, our normal hangout group is like that, there are 7 of us that are pretty close. Almost all the time when I make plans with one of them it ends up being the wholoe group. Luckily I really like them all so I dont mind it most of the time, but in a vacation situation I could see how it could get sticky. Limited room & other folks there & such.

Yup - it's pretty much this. It is fantastic for gatherings, but vacations, it becomes difficult.

StellarStaylor · January 2012

Yes, normally this doesn't bother me but sometimes it can get a little dicey when trying to plan certain events. Someone always has an issue and it ends up being more hassle.

Mrs.AngelaA · January 2012

Yes, I feel obligated to invite one particular couple if I invite the other. They are the only 2 couples like that though.

boofly1224 · January 2012

I know what you mean but our current situation is a little different. Our group of friends is a mix of single and coupled people so we can sort of get away with asking just the other couple to dinner or something but otherwise invite the whole group.

Duffinger · January 2012

Yeah we have the same type of group. What's funny is that the two couples that have to go to everything together are friends b/c I introduced them. I tried to invite just one couple over last week b/c we haven't seen them in a while, but they immediately told the other couple and it had to be a big thing.

LizO11 · January 2012

It occurs to me that we do have a pair of sisters that we are friends with both and their SO's, and there are times when we prefer to hang out with just one of them (they are WAY less drama without the sister around). We have talked about it being awkward for not inviting the other sister, but sometimes wanting a lack of drama trumps. I think they both appreciate it as well, because they like being an individual couple and not always having to deal with the other one, if that makes sense.

conradtn · January 2012

P is one of 4 best friends. The one who was his best man we can get away with just hanging out with him and his wife. However, if we invites one of the other couples then we have to invite them all.

Jennifer0807 · January 2012

conradtn:
P is one of 4 best friends. The one who was his best man we can get away with just hanging out with him and his wife. However, if we invites one of the other couples then we have to invite them all.

I can invite singly any of the couples. But if I invite 2 couples, all bets are off. Haha

conradtn · January 2012

Jennifer0807:
conradtn:
P is one of 4 best friends. The one who was his best man we can get away with just hanging out with him and his wife. However, if we invites one of the other couples then we have to invite them all.
I can invite singly any of the couples. But if I invite 2 couples, all bets are off. Haha

yep!

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