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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
"Holier than thou"?
This has me cracking up, because I really feel like this board has largely morphed into a pretty together group of people. Most posters are far from judgy -- they just don't suffer fools.
That said, I am judgy as hell about people who don't know how to get out of their own way. We've all made mistakes and poor decisions. It's the folks who don't ever seem to learn or grow from them that make me want to commit seppuku.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Re: "Holier than thou"?
It's not an easy lesson to come by sometimes for people who aren't ready to hear it, but those who give the straightest advice, generally have their heads in exactly the right place.
And many of us learn the hard way not to mince words or waste precious advice on someone *ahem* who shall remain unmentioned who refuse to take a long hard look in the mirror and accept responsibility for the necessary, albeit difficult changes that need to be made in order for their lives to turn around for the better. (Excuse the run on sentence there)
Right?! I am by no means a "traditional" kind of girl -- whatever that even means. I've never been one to blindly follow rules, and I'm a total kooky, quirky weirdo. I just don't happen to be especially self-destructive these days, and my tolerance for those who are has waned.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
is everyone else sitting there laughing and hitting refresh on that post, too?
I love it when it goes onto the second page, then all I have to do is click "newest post first".
It's amazing how clear you can see things from on top of these horses!
Yea. I know it took me 7 months from when I found out about STBXHs affair to realize that I was just demeaning myself by staying.
I agree with achase that it does take some people awhile to learn these lessons and come to these conclusions themselves. But I know I feel like I am a better person in a better place for it. And the ladies here have really helped, whether you know it or not
Agreed 100%. Lord knows I was not very smart in many of my past decisions. You (should)learn and grow and move on to bigger and better things, and count your lucky stars that things are different now and will keep getting better.
My problem is that I try to make people "see" this. some people are just head-to-wall frustrating in this vicious cycle of repeating and being victims to their past mistakes and lives. After saying the same thing enough times you just throw your hands up, shake your head, and walk away. lol