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Moms- What do you think about this?
The crazy Russian pregnant woman feels like she may be going into labor.
She put her birth plan on her blog. I'd love to know what you think.
prebabyblog.com
I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
Re: Moms- What do you think about this?
She's a pretentions know-it-all snatchbag. That's what I think.
I like this answer.
lol. Don't hold anything back.
So much of it makes me go ??? But a couple inparticular:
No loud noises or push coaching.That only refers to initial pushing. Once the head is crowning, my OB will be directing my pushing to prevent tears. I don?t tend to need a lot of loud cheering on and we don?t want the atmosphere to be crazy loud, so none of that ?PUSH! PUSH PUSH!? for me. On the other hand maybe I?ll be surprised and that?s exactly what will get me going.
Um.... I don't recall ANYONE "cheering" me on, or yelling "push push push!". This is just odd.
No episiotomy.Luckily doc agrees.
My experience- the cord was wrapped around DS's neck twice and the had to get him out ASAP. Which meant an episiotomy.... I'd rather be cut than my baby suffocate. Just sayin'
During the pushing stage, I would appreciate warm moist compresses and perineal massage to reduce risk of tearing.It?d be really cool if doc remembers to do that. Otherwise hopefully hubby will be in a gathered enough state to remind him.
This one kind of made me LOL. I liked my doc - felt very confident. But she was busy. She came in as late in the process as she could, and she didn't really have time to "massage" me.
Big picture - I feel the more detailed you get w/ your birth plan, the mroe you set yourself up to be disappointed. I get having a basic idea of what you want, making your preferences known. But some of the detail this chick goes into... seh's setting herself up.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
she's always been BSC.
And making plans that firm just invites the universe to smack you with a frying pan upside the head.
I hate to say this because it used to irritate the living out of me when I was pregnant. However, she is in for a BIG surprise! All of her pretty little posed life is going to come to a screeching (wailing lol), pooping, sleepless halt.
She's going to have to get over looking perfect all the time.
PS- I love the word snatchbag.
Having a baby is so unpredictable, I think the more strict you are with your birth plan the more things won't go the way you want. My birth plan was something like "Have healthy baby" I didn't spend hours debating what I wanted to do and how I didn't want this or had to have that, I just wanted everything to be ok with my daughter.
If I had a birth plan, I'd have been pretty thrown that DD came an entire month early, and she had some serious problems the first few weeks of her life. Also, no one cheered me on when I had DD, Does she plan to have cheerleaders in the room with her or something? Otherwise I don't see how that makes any sense.
She's quite the photochopper.
My birth plan was as follows: have baby - try not to poop.
Then she will try to redo it they way people want to redo their weddings because their MIL made Uncle Sal sit with Bobby Jean. What? Vow renewal after 3 months? Suuuure. GO for it. And then stuff that kid right back up there so you can rebirth her the way you wanted to.
Captaintightpants- I think she watches too much Sex and the City.
I have a feeling she will be highly disappointed when she can't have everything on her birth plan. God help us all if for some reason she has to have a emergency c-section, that will be a never ending woe is me story.
This was my plan too. I just wanted to avoid pain killers or epidural to see what natural childbirth was like. Now that I know I will see if I can do it a second time, but if my second is nothing like my first (read: first was short 4 hour labor actually in the hospital. The majority of my laboring at home was not that bad) then I wouldn't be above getting some demerol up in my veins.
BFP #4 It's a BOY!
CP: July 2011
BFP #3: 11/3/2011 M/C 12/12/11
We miss you and love you always, little firecrackers!
Oh, FFS:
"This is MY birth plan. I am NOT interested in what YOU think my birth is going to be like. Nor what YOU think my hospital will or will not allow, nor what YOU think I can or cannot do."
I don't understand having a birthing plan. Sure it sounds like a good idea, but does it ever really work? I think I need to be one of those people who just goes with the flow because I'm going to go BSC if I plan something and it doesn't go according to plan. I hate that about myself.
ETA - I do understand a birthing plan, I just don't get planning down every single detail. It seems like you're only setting yourself up for disappointment.
This exactly. My birth PLAN will be "have a healthy baby." Sure, I'll have ideas about what I want or don't want, but this down-to-the-last-detail stuff is a sure setup for failure.
And I kind of hope this woman ends up with vaganus.
This is mainly where the snatchbag description originated.
When bloggers take this childish approach to nay-sayers, it cracks me up. Her general attitude towards pretty much everything...other than herself...sucks. She's like a raging 4 year-old in a woman's body.
I totally agree that she is a snatchbag and hope that her delivery (summarized below) goes like mine because maybe it will give her some perspective.
Me: Natural med-free prattle prattle don't offer me your drugs and set me up for the cascade of intervention prattle prattle
Midwife: Fetal distress.
Me: Get him the fvvck out.
Midwife: I know that you have a birth plan and were...
Me: Get him the fvvck out,
what a drama lama. I refuse to visit her blog because I don't want to bring any more traffic to it.
I was in labor from Tuesday afternoon until Thursday night when I finally had a c-section (yeah, 52 hours. Give me a blue ribbon.)
Regardless, I hope she has a healthy baby. I find it disturbing when women wish the worst on her and the baby, just because she is BSC and broadcasts it to the world. Just MHO though.
Even though my birth plan was pretty thoroughly disregarded, I'm glad that I made one because it made me make decisions about the risks and benefits of things before I was actually under the stress of the situation.
That said, getting your heart set on your "perfect birth experience" is totally missing the point. No sane person ever gave birth for the experience. *shudder*
Most of what she has in her plan is standard practice where I am. None of it strikes me as strange. Although not all of it mattered to me.
My midwife pretty much went through a lot of what she has and asked me about my preferences. She made her own notes based on our conversation, I didn't have to write anything.
I think going through a plan process is good because it makes you learn about the process and various options/issues.
I don't think anyone can predict how their labour will go and need to go into it accepting how little control you have over the process.
All of that aside, this woman is BSC. I hope her birth goes really well for her because the reality of caring for a newborn is going to hit her hard.