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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Tues.Quote, Not Settling for Less than you Deserve
I've been thinking alot ...
How do you all define what it is you feel you "deserve"?
I struggle with identifying some of the things I feel I "deserve" as being "selfish" or possessing a sense of entitlement ... (i.e., financial stability, a goal-oriented man with a desire for a future home and children together, etc.) Of course some of the more known as well (loyalty, honesty, love, compassion)...
Thoughts?
Share what you feel you "deserve"?
Re: Re: Tues.Quote, Not Settling for Less than you Deserve
I feel like I deserve more than someone who snuck behind my back and cheated on me with a woman he met on the internet while my mom was going through treatment for cancer. And that's about it.
The rest, I will work hard for. I will work hard to pay off my debt, I will work hard in my career, I will work hard to continue losing weight, I will work hard to maintain my friendships, and I will work hard to rebuild a life for myself.
Well said.
Great thought to wrap your head around....
In Chinese (I do not know Chinese language, but someone repeated this on a talk show), there are two different characters for "selfish."
One character for "selfish" is wanting the best for yourself.
The OTHER character for "selfish" is greedy, hurting others.
It is two different things. It's ok to want the best for yourself.
To me "someone I deserve" doesn't conjur up feelings of entitlement. I simply know what I bring to the table in life and would add to a relationship, so I'm looking for someone who also possesses similar qualities.
I deserve:
-someone who is hardworking, goal oriented, and successful (this does not mean that I am looking for someone who makes six figures a year, more someone who has a career that they are dedicated to, proud of, and excel in)
-someone who is honest and faithful
-someone who puts their relationship and family first
-someone who has many interests and seeks adventures in life, wants to travel, try knew things
-someone who cares about health and being physically active
-someone who takes care of themselves and takes pride in their appearance
-someone who truly listens and cares about me and someone who really wants to work together, who understands what true partnership means
All this. I bring it to the table, so I deserve someone who can do the same.
Ditto.