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Siiiiiiigh.....
Date Two = SPECTACULAR 
It was really low key, just pizza, beer and trivia at a local joint, but it all just fell into place. And at the absolute most perfect surprise time, he kissed me...and it was just as good as what he looks! lol (He picked me up at work, and when he went to the bathroom, my coworker looked at me with a dropped jaw and said, "He's holyshitcute!")
And what has dumbfounded me in about a hundred different ways, he's absolutely into me. Is this my real life or just a movie? Because I feel like I'm only playing me, because things like this just don't happen to me! (I'm just average looking at best, and guys don't really give me many second looks, really.)
We're going out again on Thursday, since he has his kids Friday night-Sunday night.
One thing I do have to say is that sparks FLEW (there go those pterodactyls!) It's going to be really hard to not push the envelope to the no-turning-back zone. Yikes. 
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Re: Siiiiiiigh.....
So awesome!!!
How did you two meet again? I forget the story.
I am totally and utterly green with jealously!
How did you guys meet? If it's online, I want to know how many dates you went on before this guy. I read online that it takes on average 7 dates from a dating site to find someone you're compatible with. I want to see if this proves true in real life!
Enjoy this guy and I'm so happy for you!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
thanks for being happy for me! At least someone is
I have a group of good friends from another forum that essentially is a bunch of Debbie Downers about it. I posted there (and here too) about aiming to move out of state in the fall, and being unsure about whether to wait until I get there to date (and be almost 35 years old, freaking ancient to *start* dating again when you kinda want marriage and kids in your future!), or to be open to dating here and seeing what happens, and because I said that, they're all over it, saying, "I thought you were going to lay low and not get into anything that would sidetrack you from moving?" (And I did say, "Watch, as soon as I set my sights on actually moving, I'll meet someone that'll make me want to stay!") At this point, even though I really do want to go, I'm leaving it up to God. If he wants me to stay, he'll let this relationship work out, if he wants me to go, it won't. Simple as that. I'm open to either.
I also mentioned in the post that he has the same first name as my ex-husband, but just spelled differently, and how it was kind of funny, and listed a few things about him that I really like that made me feel like he was "my type", and some of them even said, "You're already comparing him to your exes and stereotyping him!"
Uh, whut? Since when is ^that^ comparing and stereotyping in a bad way?
So thanks for supporting me!
First of all, don't take this as a Debbie Downer at all, because I'm really excited for you. But you seem to be basing A LOT on looks here. I'm glad that he's really cute, but there is more to a person than their looks and I hope you aren't just getting caught up in the fact that someone so attractive could be interested in you. You should stop with the questions of "why" and be like "heck ya! I'm an awesome person and this guy is super lucky he decided to go out with me."
No, not just on looks alone, although he is definitley the hottest guy I've ever gone out with and even my gorgous co-worker was impressed. But his whole package is like that perfect guy that stepped out of the movies. He's just very sweet and genuine and positive and cares about things a lot of guys wouldn't, like he volunteers a LOT, and I've never gone out with anybody who's ever done any volunteer work. Also, the place that we went on Saturday had a volunteer guy with a set up showing kids how things look under a microscope, and the guy looked bored, so we stopped and talked to him and let him do his little demonstration for us. J actually stood there and took in what he was doing and asked questions, instead of just brushing it off as stupid or kiddy like a lot of guys would. I think it shows great character, and also shows what kind of a dad he is, because that's something you do with your kids, show genuine interest and excitement over something small that they do, ya know?
He loaned his next door neighbor money to pay her rent so she didn't get evicted, and they're not really even friends, just next door acquaintances. He blushes when people call him cute. He's just very humble and cute and genuine and great. In my history, I tend to have attracted guys that had some sort of red flag that they weren't good guys and would hurt me down the line (mostly). So this just feels like I'm in The Notebook or something, haha
I still need to keep my wits, though, which is hard. Two dates in the grand scheme of things is nothing, and I have to keep reminding myself that.
LOL I am, although it's hard to struggle out of the "why does every guy end up treating me badly, it must be ME" mindset. It's hard to get your self esteem back up off the ground, but I'm trying.
Totally get that! I'm just trying to pump you up girl:) I'm currently having the same issues with a guy I'm casually dating. He's really fit, very good looking. I'm not so fit so I'm really self conscious of that. But eventually I had to realize that everyone has different ideas of what they are attracted to. And clearly he finds something attractive about me. If I didn't get in that mindset I'd for sure lose any confidence and probably self-destruct the relationship with my insecurities.
I agree with pdx. I was going to say that I think you need to give yourself some more credit. I think it is okay to think "I am a strong, awesome, attractive woman and I deserve to be with someone who realizes, respects, and deserves to be with someone as awesome as me" without being conceited or anything. Self-esteem and confidence go a long way I think. Especially in weeding out the good guys. I feel like good guys respect a girl with confidence and bad guys can't handle it so it scares them away.
I also know it is hard to be confident and think highly of yourself if you have had past experiences that have torn you down. It is something I struggle with every day and it sucks because I used to be super confident with who I am. Now not so much. I am slowly regaining it and learning to love me again.
All that being said I am happy you have found someone who makes you giddy and happy. It's nice to have that. I miss having butterflies in my stomach for someone.