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Updated: Ugh, how annoying!
So I have lunch plans today with a friend who happens to be a guy. We live about 45 minutes from each other, and we agreed that he would be at my house at 12. Well at 12:45 I hadn't heard anything from him, so I text him to see what's up. He said he overslept, he's just leaving the house, and he was hoping that I slept in too. Then I said, "Nope, I've been up for a while now so that I could be ready on time."
He apologized, but I still can't help but be super annoyed. If he wasn't such a nice guy and this wasn't the first time he was so late (though this is the first time we have actually made plans together), I would tell him to just forget it. But it's not even the tardiness that bothers me nearly as much as the inconsideration of not even letting me know that he was running late.
We're not dating. I'm not dating anybody. This is completely casual. But how do you ladies handle this? I feel like I'm in a bad mood now, and even though I still want to have a good time, I plan to make it clear that something like this should not happen again.
Share your thoughts and experiences.
Re: Updated: Ugh, how annoying!
Since this is a one time thing I would just get over it. It's annoying for sure but don't ruin your day because he slept in. If he continues to be tardy for meetings, then you can be annoyed and say something. I would let this go because you already made it clear that you're annoyed and he apologized.
Accidents happen and people make mistakes. Put on a smile and be happy that at least you're still meeting up for lunch. Don't hold a grudge after he apologized.
Yes, you're right. I just needed to vent I suppose. I'm definitely looking forward to some pizza though!
I don't do well with this type of inconsiderateness, so I would have told him that you'd have to reschedule for another time since he's running so late. I think the best way to make sure that something like that doesn't happen again is to not accept it this time.
People running late is one of my pet peeves, so I may be harsher than normal.
I don't think this is overly harsh; this is actually what I really wanted to do, but I was worried that I was being too emotional. I will be assertive when I address this.
I'm with you there! While the running late is annoying, the more inconsiderate thing is not calling to let you know. D is never on time, but he's usually pretty good about giving me a heads up if he's running late. It's just being considerate of another person's time.
I don't think you are being to emotional. It is frustrating when people do not honor their commitments. I understand that sh!t happens. If it is not a normal thing maybe say something like I wish you would have let me know you woke up late so I did not worry. (lol)
I am the type of person that if I am not 10 minutes early then I am late. It drives me crazy when people are late and I am waiting on them. I have a friend who constantly is late, forgot to let me know, got busy with something, etc. So after a few times I went and ate alone and he called asking why I was not at my house waiting. I was like I was hungry, you were late, so I am at the restaurant. Needless to say that he has been on time since. Maybe a little harsh but it worked.
Next time, just say "sorry, I have plans for later that I can't change. We'll have to reschedule."
Ditto this ESPECIALLY if he doesn't call, and shows up at your door 1 hour late! Then he'll learn to at least call!
We are both in our mid 20s. Yesterday he actually went in to work on only a few hours of sleep since we had hung out really late the night before, so I know that he was really beat. And he was off today, so I don't blame him for wanting to sleep in. It just annoyed me that he was the one that wanted to make plans for earlier in the day, and then he didn't stick to them. Also, I would never do something so inconsiderate to anyone, especially someone I considered to be a friend.
However, he made up for it. He brought me a (small and inexpensive, but very thoughtful) gift, and he bought my lunch, both of which were unexpected but appreciated. I let him know that all he had to do was call or text if he was running late. We had a good time. Crisis averted.