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Baby Shower Issue
So my friend, T, who is helping put my shower together with my mom and sister has been sick for the last couple of weeks. She first had pink eye (in both eyes) and a nasty cold, was put on antibiotics and now has hives. Yesterday she e-mailed and said her husband and daughter are sick as well. She said they would still try and make it to the shower but I told her that they should probably stay home so they don't get 30+ people sick.
I really don't feel like getting sick right now. I've read in numerous places that pregnant women don't have as effective immune system.
Was that rude of me to suggest they not come?
~Melissa~
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Re: Baby Shower Issue
nope! hopefully she understands and realizes that keeping the germs at home is prob the best bet and once all are healthy maybe they can come over for a small party with you guys?
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That's so sad
If I were her, I would stay home. I would feel too terrible about being around you in that condition. I know it's a tough position for both of you, but you didn't do anything wrong. Consider that she would still like to "try to come" because she doesn't want to let you down, so maybe she was waiting for you to suggest it? Maybe she just needed to know that you would be understanding if she missed it, do you know what I mean?
I think being pregnant (or a new mom) gives you license to be completely selfish about your health and your baby's health, and don't feel guilty about anything!!
Either way, enjoy your shower, it's going to be wonderful!
Seems perfectly reasonable to me to strongly suggest she not come. Getting sick pregnant or nursing is no fun, because you can't take practically anything to relieve symptoms (as I type barely able to breathe through my nose). Your friend should understand. You're too close to term to get sick now.
I hope she feels better soon though! And have fun at your shower!!!!
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Not rude at all!
My sister came home over Thanksgiving sick and got everyone sick (me, DH, my parents). Everyone else kicked it in a couple days and I was sick for 4 weeks! I left work yesterday with a fever of 100.2 and slept from 3pm when I got home to 6:30am this morning. My nose is still stuffy. I definitely wouldn't risk it because it totally sucks being sick while pregnant. Trust me.
Not rude at all. I don't get people who go places while sick in general. Sorry if I offend but STAY HOME. And since you are pregnant you are way limited as to what you can take.
That stinks!!! I don't think you were rude at all, and I think everyone understands (esp if she has a kid too) that the last thing you need is exposure to germies.
The only thing I would make sure of is that she understands that you mean it and that you aren't just saying "oh don't worry, I understand if you miss it!" to be nice. It sounds like she does, but I'd hate for her to show up bc she thought it was the right thing to do when it is oh so wrong!
Have fun at your shower
This. ansd i love the idea of suggesting that you all get together at a later date when everyone is feeling better.
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Not at all. I'd have done the same thing, and she should understand what with you being pregnant you can NOT afford to be sick at all, let alone infecting all the rest of your shower guests. If she's doing better and can come on her own, great. But there's no need for her husband and child to be there if they're going to pass it on to anyone else.
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