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Hi--Introduction and a quick question
So, I've lurked around here for a little while before I finally got up the nerve to post. 
I've lurked around the Knot MB board a little too, as my H and I are planning a vow renewal for next year. He is at Basic right now for the Marines, he graduates in about 3 weeks and then he gets to go to Combat Training and then his school, during all of which I will, of course, be staying where I am at. I think his school is longer than 6 months (avionics) but I'll be staying here regardless, since I have to finish up my bachelor's before I move anywhere (H would kill me if I even suggested doing otherwise). I'm feeling a bit lost right now as I have no real family ties to the military outside of a grandfather who was in the Marines and a close family friend who was Navy, so I have literally zero prior experience with the military. I don't want to pepper H with questions, either, once he comes home.
My FIL and I were discussing the other day what my living plans were once H is out of Basic. (I live with him and my MIL right now, they offered in order to make things easier for us while H was in Basic) I said that I was thinking of either getting my own place or that my sister and her FI had asked if I wanted to get a place with them. His response: "Why don't you apply for on base housing?" Now I'm confused. I have a friend who is married to a man in the AF who told me that while he is in training and school, we will be eligible for BAH but not housing. Now my FIL says we are eligible for either or. (He is prior Navy, BTW) Does anyone know which is correct? I was under the impression that we are not eligible for on base housing until we get to his first duty station. (The only base here is AF, and he is Marines, if that would make any difference.)
Re: Hi--Introduction and a quick question
Where were you living before living with his parents? Can you not just stay there while he finishes school and then move to be with him after? I just wouldn't want to move that much in a year if not necessary.
But otherwise above posters are correct.
Yeah, that's pretty much what I thought. Plus, I would feel weird living on a base where he wasn't stationed even if I was allowed.
His parents have offered to let me stay until he gets his first duty station, and I am leaning towards that. They have been extraordinarily nice in letting me stay here rent and bill free, and since we will be able to contribute once he is out of Basic, I would like to as a means of showing my appreciation. (Right now I just cook dinner!) My other two options are: get my own place, or get a place with my sister and her fiance. She really wants me to bc they want a bigger place, and can't afford it w/o a roommate.
Truthfully, I kind of want to stay and help out his parents for a few months, and then get my own place while I wait on him (and finish up at school). I had my own apartment by myself before we got married, and I kind of miss it. It was very peaceful. And quiet.
Agreed!
Yeah, I think you guys are right. I hadn't really thought of that--but when I leave they are going to be in the same position that they are in right now.
I'm really leaning towards staying with the ILs now, because it would save me the hassle of having to potentially break a lease when it comes time to pick up and move to where H will be.
For what it's worth there is typically a military clause in all leases (and if there isn't, ask for one to be in there before signing!) and you are allowed to break the lease with orders. Your H will have orders to his duty station and you should be on them as his dependent so breaking the lease without penalty is no big deal. If you want to live alone, do it. I wouldn't blame you. But if things are good with the ILs then by all means stay. Free is the best price around.