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Somewhat of a C&P from another board...

Let's say you are thinking about getting divorced...would you start hiding cash from your husband?  Not in a bank account that he doesn't know about but...say, in shoe boxes in your closet?  Or give the money to a sister to watch over?

((for the record, someone had a financial question about divorce and someone else recommend she do one of the two items above - several people got somewhat pearl clutchy about it))...

I will go ahead and respond first: yes, I would do it.

Re: Somewhat of a C&P from another board...

  • I would as well.  I'd stash some cash away in my secret hiding spot and wouldn't tell anyone.  I would be smart about it though and be planning for this far in ahead so the amounts of money wouldn't be noticeable. 
  • imageSnowful:
    I would as well.  I'd stash some cash away in my secret hiding spot and wouldn't tell anyone.  I would be smart about it though and be planning for this far in ahead so the amounts of money wouldn't be noticeable. 

    Well, we are unethical and sleezy.

    Add our back stabbing ways to the above qualities and it sounds to me like we are awesome.

  • I did essentially this, took money from my 401k and gave it directly to my sister (she had done the same a year or so before). I used it to pay for my lawyer and refi the house. I would recommend the same to a friend. 
  • We have separate bank accounts. He doesn't know the account numbers and isn't on them in any way. Plus, my mom works at the bank where I do my banking, and has access to all of my stuff, so she would probably be able to protect it for me somehow in case that was necessary, because I would likely tell her before anything was finalized.
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  • imagefuzzylogic:
    We have separate bank accounts. He doesn't know the account numbers and isn't on them in any way. Plus, my mom works at the bank where I do my banking, and has access to all of my stuff, so she would probably be able to protect it for me somehow in case that was necessary, because I would likely tell her before anything was finalized.

    Well, if it is in the bank, then your husband would be entitled to half. The idea is to hide the money so that it can't be traced, if that makes any sense.

  • Hell yes I would!  Financial transparency goes out the window once I decide I'm done with the marriage.  I have a stash already (that I use for very naughty shopping trips, etc,), but I'm pretty sure H knows this already.  He never asks how I pay for random things here and there that don't show up on mint, anyway.  :)
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  • imageBoyMom21:
    Hell yes I would!  Financial transparency goes out the window once I decide I'm done with the marriage.  I have a stash already (that I use for very naughty shopping trips, etc,), but I'm pretty sure H knows this already.  He never asks how I pay for random things here and there that don't show up on mint, anyway.  :)

    Teee hee hee hee hee. This is Naughty! I LOVE IT! I am pretty sure DH thinks I have a stash too because...

    DH, a friend of mine, and I went to a big Balliet's sale awhile back.  Friend's hubby didn't come. She brought some shoes and some other stuff, then we went to a party and her hubby met us there.  She left her goods in my trunk.  We had to go back to her house to get our dog - and she rode home with her hubby.  We got to her house and I asked the husband to pop the trunk so I could get her goods.  He said "um, you might make sure she doesn't want you to, you know, drop that off at her work or something....you know...."  Long pause.  I finally caught on. I said "Oh, honey, he is just like you, he doesn't care." Big Smile It was totally cute.

  • Yes, I would.
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  • Legally it's not even about hiding it, it just has to be not-your-money so that it's not a marital asset to be divided by both parties. 
  • If I truly thought divorce was imminent, I'd certainly be stashing money away.
  • image+buttercup+:
    If I truly thought divorce was imminent, I'd certainly be stashing money away.
    Yep, same here.
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  • image+PuppyWuppy+:

    imagefuzzylogic:
    We have separate bank accounts. He doesn't know the account numbers and isn't on them in any way. Plus, my mom works at the bank where I do my banking, and has access to all of my stuff, so she would probably be able to protect it for me somehow in case that was necessary, because I would likely tell her before anything was finalized.

    Well, if it is in the bank, then your husband would be entitled to half. The idea is to hide the money so that it can't be traced, if that makes any sense.

    Well, then, never mind! I obviously haven't thought about it. However, I would likely have my mom stash it in a safe place. 

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  • Smart girls!!
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  • imagedrillerswife:
    image+buttercup+:
    If I truly thought divorce was imminent, I'd certainly be stashing money away.
    Yep, same here.

    Ditto

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  • Drinks  Good. Glad to know we are all unethical and sneaky together!
  • I love this post!  ;)  I am currently helping a young woman get things secured to buy her own house without her husband knowing.... It is quite interesting but I love it!  She has been working for close to a year to prepare for this divorce and I think it is going to come as a total shock to him and most of their friends/family.  
  • imagejesseandbri:
    I love this post!  ;)  I am currently helping a young woman get things secured to buy her own house without her husband knowing.... It is quite interesting but I love it!  She has been working for close to a year to prepare for this divorce and I think it is going to come as a total shock to him and most of their friends/family.  

    Careful there. If the house is in her name, it's marital property and a title company will almost certainly insist her husband be on the title and at closing. This is true even if she has filed at that time if it isn't finalized.  

  • imagejesseandbri:
    I love this post!  ;)  I am currently helping a young woman get things secured to buy her own house without her husband knowing.... It is quite interesting but I love it!  She has been working for close to a year to prepare for this divorce and I think it is going to come as a total shock to him and most of their friends/family.  

    Yes, if she plan to buy before the divorce, the property needs to go into someone else's name until after the divorce when she can have the title transfered into her name.

  • Double post!  
  • This girl has it figured out.  It will not be in her "name". She basically just picked out the house on paper.  It will all change afterwards.  
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