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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
My FFFC.
Though I moved out over a month ago, I have yet to tell H that I want a divorce.Wednesday night I was out with my friend when I got an email on my phone about recovering my password for my other email account, and I knew instantly that H was trying to hack my email. How did I know? Because shortly after I moved out, I got a text from a friend telling me that H had called him. That's right. H was going through the phone bill and calling numbers that I had called or texted. I assume he is just violating my privacy and trying to dig up dirt because it would make him feel better if I had some sort of affair that made me want to leave, as opposed to him coming to terms with the fact that his douchebaggery is to blame. I plan to call him on Monday so that we can file our taxes, and then I'm going to tell him that we need to file for divorce. I'm so ready to be done with this.
Re: My FFFC.
My ex did stuff like that after I left. It was beyond rage-inducing. My best suggestion to you is to change your passwords (which I'm sure you've already done) and get cell phone service that is separate from him. It's clear that he's trying to be a control freak. Also, if you hire a lawyer, I would tell the lawyer about your ex trying to hack into your stuff and violating your privacy.
My FFFC is that I have a snow day from work today and I intend to do very little that could be considered productive.
I changed my passwords before I left, because when the whole thing had just started he decided it was ok to hack into my Facebook to read messages that I had sent to my friends regarding the situation. I know he could never guess my passwords now.
And I have already separated my phone line from his.
I doubt we are going to hire a lawyer. Everything is already separated; basically all we have to do is file. I've just been trying to sort through my emotions and get settled before I have to dive back into the crazy. I feel like my head is clear though, and I know I'm making the right decision.
H still continues to believe that I just need to come back and work on things, that I'm just giving up. He thinks that my friends and you ladies on this message board are influencing me in my decision. He obviously knows what's best for me, and if I just go back then we can live happily ever after.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
Wanted to say Happy Birthday! Try to enjoy your day
Thank you! I am definitely enjoying my day.
It's your bday?! Happy birthday! Go out and see if you can get some free shots
Thank you, everyone!
Tomorrow night is when I'm going out on the town. All of my best friends will be there, and one of them has a birthday on Monday, so we are celebrating hers too. I see plenty of free drinks in my near future.
Ugh, that really sucks. I have absolutely nothing to hide either, but he doesn't understand that it's not cool to just invade my privacy. If he had a question I would answer it; and he has had questions, and I have answered each one truthfully. He just obviously does not trust me for some reason, so he's looking for something to either confirm his suspicions or to put his mind at ease. The only things I have in that email account are student loan statements and maybe some credit card statements. I'm really not sure what he thought he was going to find. And considering it's not the first but the third time he's done stupid ish like this, it just made me want to bang my head against a wall.
He found out that I was wanting to leave him before I even talked to him about it, because he just decided (apparently randomly) to sign into my Facebook and read my messages to my friends. After that I changed all of my passwords; I knew then that he was snooping and that it was in my best interest to protect my privacy. But looking back, he was probably trying to confirm some sort of random suspicion then, too.
I don't remember whether I stated this in a post above, but I'm going to call him tomorrow so that we can get our taxes filed. After that is all said and done, I'm going to tell him that I want a divorce. It's high time to put an end to this chapter in my life and move on to the next. He's still holding on to some kind of hope that I will want to work on things, but I don't trust him, and if he doesn't trust me, I don't even know what the point is of letting this go on any longer.
Needless to say, I'll be glad when all of this is said and done.