Trouble in Paradise
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People who've been to therapy/counseling
How did you determine it was time to stop going? Was this a decision you made on your own or with your therapist/counselor?
Re: People who've been to therapy/counseling
The last time I stopped it was not because I should, but because I didn't like the lady I was seeing. The time before that, it was because I moved.
I would suggest bringing it up to your therapist though. I have a feeling he/she will support you if you have good reasons for wanting to stop.
I'm assuming you mean individual and not couples?
I'm tapering off right now. I went for a specific reason and find that I don't have much to talk about anymore because I've made a lot of progress. I told her that I want to go once a month instead of every two weeks and take it from there. She agreed.
It was mostly my decision but she agreed. I knew when I went in and I never really had anything I thought we needed to talk about and the things I was struggling with were clearly subsiding (I had really severe anxiety at the start of last year and was unable to sleep, too scared of a car accident to drive, things like that).
I dropped down to once a month at first and then stopped after about three months (in September) with the understanding that if I felt like I needed to come back, I would call and come back. I went back last month once because I thought my anxiety was creeping back up on me after I miscarried in December.
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This, for both times : )
Yeah I feel like this. I had a bit of an argument w/ her the last time I saw her earlier this week that has left me unsettled. She made a comment such as I was creating drama with Murphy because things were going so well in my life with FI. I am totally shocked she would think this of me, I don't think I go looking for drama. Things with Murphy have been stressful for a while and yes - it is stressful considering what is best for us and him, but I'm not creating drama about it.
ugh
She thinks your self sabotaging? Maybe she just meant that you're making things with the Murph bigger than they are. Obviously she doesn't personally know how things are home are. She might be off on this though, for sure.
I wouldn't stop going just because she said this necessarily. But is there a pattern of her judging you in a way that makes you unhappy seeing her?
MCC - that's not the reason, I am just surprised by what happened in our last session. She made a non-chalent "tell your dog's breeder that you're done and ask when to return him." comment and then the other one I mentioned. I am having a very difficult time w/ the dog situation and feeling a lot of complicated emotions about it. It's not so easy for me to shut off feelings about it and she, most of all, is usually pretty understanding about that.
I have been thinking about leaving for a few months as I feel confident in making healthy decisions for myself, we have talked about setting an end before. Maybe something was going on w/ her this past week, IDK, but her response was strange.
I agree, I think that's why I feel so upset about it all.
My therapist told me that as much as she liked seeing me on a regular basis, she no longer felt that I needed her services.
If you're wondering about any etiquette that may tie to this, just ask your therapist what he/she thinks. If he/she thinks you can still benefit from therapy, they should tell you so.
I wonder if she was trying to get you thinking about what that would be like to help clarify your root feelings about the issue and what course of action you do or don't want to take.
In my experience, the majority of therapists rarely give advice, but may make statements that will cause you to think things over and argue for one course of action over another.
I think it would be worth talking with her about how her statements made you feel and to also discuss overall what would be best for you re:therapeutic services.
ETA: I'm not trying to say she wasn't in the wrong or that your feelings/reaction are wrong. I'm just trying to offer a different perspective and encourage at least trying to work it out before moving on.