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MIL Vent
So, I am going to my presurgical appointment for my C/S today. I have to leave at 12:30. I cant take LB with me. I asked MIL at the beginning of the week if she would watch her. She agreed.
I get up this morning - barely able to walk due to my sciatic nerve and the baby - and all I hear is her complaining to FIL about how she can't be at my BIL & SIL's all day to help them clean their new apartment because she has to "run all over the place" for me. As soon as I heard this, I called my husband & sister, the only people in the area who could get here fast enough to watch LB. Sister went to NJ for the night and DH's company was bought out so they have a mandatory meeting at noon.
Fast forward to twenty minutes ago. She comes down to our apartament with our neighbor on the phone and says to me "You dont mind if said neighbor watches LB, do you?"
Now, no one other than family has ever watched her before and I wasn't really ready for it to be today. I have no time to get her ready for a sitter instead of a family member who knows where everything is and how her day goes. I know, I should get over that but, really? She asked me with the woman right there on the phone and I have to leave in an hour and a half, wtf else am I going to say other than yes. And the reason she is leaving me hanging is to go clean someone elses apartament because she is "too pregnant to do it herslef". She is only 5 months!!
THEN they have the nerve to take DH's keys, empty out his truck on our kitchen counter and take it to help BIL and SIL move. Not only is that nervy but I was not prepared to clean up all of our crap from the truck 2 days before the little man gets here... wasnt really a priority.
I am so upset and hurt that she would do this. I could be completely overreacting.. but I am just so dumbfounded.
P.S. - she bailed on my graduate school graduation because she had to help same BIL & SIL move 2 years ago.
If you made it to the end.. thanks : )
Re: MIL Vent
holy crap i would be BEYOND pissed. You are not overreacting. She made a commitment to you at the beginning of the week and she waits til a half hour before to cancel and hand your kid to someone else. i would be LIVID!!!!! And I would have your husband say something to her, that is not right, not right at all!!!!! What was your husbands reaction when you told him?
I am fuming for you right now!
Your not overreacting at all! I would be furious. If she couldn't watch LB initially she should have said so instead of putting you in this awful position. I personally would have been a total biatch (in front of the neighbor) and flat out told her no. But that's just me and your probably a nicer person than I am. Your DH needs to have a little talk with her.
I'm 6 months pregnant and still clean my house everyday....I clean everything, and all on my own. The poor SIL will survive.
Hugs I am so sorry! This is horrible for her to do to you. I Am in the same position I need to find some babysitters! My husband only trusts his mom or my BFF to watch our child and I hate relying on them!
I hope your husband says something to her especially since your little man is coming in a day or so!
I am so sorry you have to deal with that today. I would have flipped out on her. Please let me know if you ever need anything, I have a few free days I would gladly help out because I know how hard it is with 2 kids in the beginning.
Thanks ladies. Being told that I am not nuts for reacting this way always helps.
DH was pissed when I told him and is going to have a long talk when he gets home from work.
I was literally away from the house for a total of an hour and a half. Apparently the house needed to be cleaned IMMEDIATELY and she couldn't wait. I have only asked for her help with LB a total of maybe 5 times. Lord knows, it will never happen again.
When he gets home, I am going for a mani/pedi.. I need some serious me time..lol
Booooooo!!!!!!
Take extra long at your manicure and pedicure!!!
Ughhhhh!!!!! I'm upset for you. You are not overreacting and please post back and let us know everything is ok
DH spoke to her but she really didn't see anything wrong with what she did.. typical BS.
I am pretty much done with her at this point. We save money by living in this apartment, but it is not worth it. We are out of here in a few months when I am all healed and the little man settles into our world. She is a worthless piece and I am so tired of it.
And yes, I thoroughly enjoyed my mani/pedi : P
UGH i'm so sorry she is such crap. Every time i read this i get all riled up for you. The nerve!!!! Hopefully you can get through these next few months smoothly and move on your way. I have a crappy MIL myself so i totally understand.