how often do you get this?

shandij · February 2012

every time i turn around someone is asking me or my husband when we are going to have kids. we just got married on january 6th and its very aggravating to us. we want kids but when it happens it happens. does anybody else get this alot and what do we do about it to get it to stop?

HallowsEve7 · February 2012

You must be new to this board, so I'll be the first to say Hi. And to give you the responses you'll get from everyone else:

- Smile prettily and say, "Why would you ask that?"

- "My uterus is not your business." or "I don't discuss my uterus or family planning with anyone but my husband and doctor."

- If you continue to get the questions, ignore them or tell them point-blank "If you continue to ask about this, we're leaving." Then follow through.

jadeorchid21 · February 2012

FRESH MEAT!!!! LOL!!

Welcome! We have lots of thoughts on this.

I try to make a stand up comedy skit out of it. ( I had to at my mother's memorial) I asked for a collection from the family for the cost of raising a child. I told every one they had to come up with $500,000 for private school, babysitters and college. They stopped asking after that.

lizardesque · February 2012

"When minivans are cool and day care is free."

Spliced · February 2012

It never ends. Even if you decide to and have 1 child, they can't help but ask... "When are you having another?" "You aren't going to just have 1 are you?" "Oh, he's an only child?" Some people just have nothing better to do then be a peanut gallery.

LizO11 · February 2012

lizardesque:
"When minivans are cool and day care is free."

Totally read this as Mimosas and not minivans. And had to reread it because my thought was...but mimosas are cool and that would make free day care a necessity... Perhaps I need some sleep, lol.

As for the original question, I usually say something along the lines "Meh...I am enjoying being married and running around our house naked without having to explain ourselves." And then follow up with a p.s. of "Oh, by the way, make sure you call before stopping by." They usually leave it at that.

JessieR933 · February 2012

Tell them it is a very rude thing to ask. You can also say that you and your H just got married and want to enjoy each other for awhile.

Grits8812 · February 2012

We aren't even married yet and we already get that question. Tell them that when it happens it happens, and change the subject.

iLikeSloths · February 2012

I usually just tell people we're very happy with the way things are right now and don't feel the need to change it anytime soon. Out of all the other responses I've tried this one seems to work the best for me because there's not too much else they can say to it.

Milsey32 · February 2012

I've only been married since November (but I beat Kim K's marriage!) and still get it every time DH and I see someone. We just say we aren't ready for kids yet - I work all day and go to school all night, so we can't afford kids financially and with time.

quiltedinky · February 2012

I just say that DH and I will discuss in a year and a half. (No one notices that the time never shrinks.

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cucca77 · February 2012

DH and I have been getting this since we got back from our honeymoon. I finally snapped this week and told my mother in law that I would be glad to deliver if she is willing to feed it, change it, and stay up all night when it is sick since she wants another grandchild so bad. That ended that!

StellarStaylor · February 2012

For the most part people are pretty respectful about it. My mom has been harping a little more frequently, but she just wants a grandkid period. I feel like I have youth and the fact I'm still in school on my side. Once I tell them that it wouldn't be any time soon if we did, they've pretty much stopped asking.

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