Trouble in Paradise
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Emotional Affairs?
Has anyone ever been through their spouse having an emotional affair? If so - how did you deal with it? How long did it take to feel normal? Was it worth it to try?
Re: Emotional Affairs?
oh no! I haven't but I've always thought it would be harder to get past an emotional affair for me than a one night or brief physical affair..
idk why.
you ok?
what happened?
do you have a new baby?
Im so sorry!
If this is something very new on your plate, this is horrible. YOu've got a new little one added to your family.:(
We see emotional affairs on this board all the time. it's the same old sad sorry story: the H has a "friend" and the "friend" is NOT a friend.
There are multiple texts, sometimes hundreds a day. there are inappropriate photos and other nonsense sent to the "friend." same old story, same old thing; this is NOT a "friend."
A decent, happily married man does not have over the top and out of line, no boundaries involved conversations with a friend. A decent, happily married man confides in his wife. And what happens between him and his wife stays there. it goes no further.
The spouse denies it. Says that there's no fishy, funky monkey business going on...same old story.:( And many Hs/wives believe it. They hear the word 'friend" and they figure Okay...
Some don't tolerate it at all. They show the spouse the door.
The spouse sometimes cries when the emotional affair comes to light; the only thing he is crying over is that he was caught. He will promise from here until next 10 Christmasses to end contact with the "friend" etc.
An affair is an affair, even if it is an emotional one. One's spouse/SO need not have intercourse to be having an affair.
You also have no assurance that your spouse hasn't had sex with that person. The worm's in the apple: if he won't have sex with the "friend" then he has physical cheating on his mind.
My advice: show him the door. Because once a cheater, always a cheater.
Couples are in a danger zone during a pregnancy -- it's theorized that most affairs begin when the wife is expecting a child.
If you are spiritual, see your clergyperson. A secular conselor is necessary, also.
My college roommate's husband had an emotional affair that eventually morphed into a physical affair. She has since filed for divorce and has two little ones.
Emotional affairs are not always as innocent as people claim them to be.