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WWYD? - how to express condolences for lost babies
One of DH's best friends from high school, who stood up in our wedding, was expecting twins. I just learned that his wife gave birth prematurely, and the babies only lived for about an hour. We are absolutely heartbroken for the couple! They were both so excited about being first-time parents, I can't even imagine what they're going through!! We're just struggling with how to express our condolences. I think DH should call and send a card, but I feel like that's not enough. At the same time, I don't want to be obnoxious since I'm sure they have lots of friends and family around right now. WWYD?
Re: WWYD? - how to express condolences for lost babies
That is such a heartbreaking story. Ugh what a terrible loss for that couple.
I know a few people who have had miscarriages (obviously not quite the same thing but along the same lines) and the one thing they all say is that they appreciate people reaching out to them. Even just sending a card or some other type of message to say "I'm truly sorry for your loss." Just to know people are thinking of them helps.
One thing I would avoid would be anything along the "it's God's plan," "everything happens for a reason" etc.
All great advice Liz, thanks. I don't know why I feel so bad at these things, I always second guess myself whether I'm doing or saying the right thing. But I think you're right - maybe a phone call and a card is all it will take to let them know they're in our thoughts and prayers. I initially felt like we should go over and see them (they live nearby) but I'm worried that's too much at this point. But we'll definitely continue to reach out and be there for them as they heal.
I just checked and she was due in May, so pretty far along. Such a tragedy!!
Maybe donate to a charity in their name (march of dimes or something more local based)--- a charity specific to premature birth or anything connected to the event.
Send flowers (probably getting a lot already though), take a meal over, send a gift card to them for a restaurant. Offer a shoulder to cry on/lean on, whatever they need.
So sad. Thoughts and prayers for them.
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Definitely a card, and I really like the idea of donating to charity.
I agree that I would avoid any "It's God's plan", "You can always have another", "Time heals all wounds" business. Showing you care and are there for them is what is important and what they need.
I can't even imagine...
I'm sorry to hear that.
I agree w/ppl, sending a card lets them know you care & are thinking about them. Even a phone call & say, if you guys want to talk or just hang out, we're here for you. I was also going to suggest making a meal/restuarant gift card, I'm sure meals aren't on their mind right now.
Aww =( this is truly heartbreaking. I can relate, about a year ago my friend Christa was pregnant with a baby boy. She was two weeks over due- and then she went in the hospital to give birth and the baby died in labor. I was at a loss for words- I don't think that you can ever do too much for someone in a time like this. Definitely send a card, with flowers first- give them time with the family- a few days later when things calm down a little bit- call.
I agree with this. That must be very hard for them and I can only imagine what they are going through.