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Now listen here Chasing Emmii!! LOL
Between your "healthy relationships" and "Yep" posts, you are starting to scare me! Can a person be too excited over a new relationship? Absolutely, and I am getting that feeling from you.
My guy senses dont have a positive vibe here. Honestly something feels "off" about this guy.
Here is what you wrote:
"We talked afterwards, and he said some things that really touched my heart, and made me understand that he didn't just have sex to be having sex, that it was important to him."
This seems odd that he would feel the need to say this too you, his efforts in bed towards your needs should be evidence enough of this.
Also him asking you to sleep over on the 3rd date?? I am still trying to figure this one out. Yes I do believe having sex, having sex AND sleeping over is way different.
I am a 100% rooting for you CE and hope I am wrong about this guy....but for the love of god calm down, keep your wits about you, and dont put him on a pedestal.
Sorry I didnt mind my own business, but I have had a few jack and cokes and just felt like this needed to be said....hahahahah. Hope you dont mind too much a guy's perspective on this.
Wishing you the best!!
Re: Now listen here Chasing Emmii!! LOL
Huh?? Glad I am not the only one who has been drinking tonight.
no no no no no! lol
Yes, I'm excited to finally meet someone I connect with (and am getting some from!), but I'm not putting the cart before the horse here. I personally don't have a great track record of being in healthy relationships, and I'm trying to learn how to make better choices. This is why I ask opinions on things like this, to figure out what's right and wrong and normal, etc. It's all a learning process, and I muse a lot in my head, so it comes out. I know you ladies and gents will give your unabashed opinions, which is sorely needed sometimes.
I purposely brought up the whole sex thing in conversation because I wanted to be able to determine his intentions and read between the lines so I didn't just jump in headfirst and bash my head on the bottom of the pool. I like that he was straightforward with me and said some of the things he did, both before and after sex. Because I don't think that the sex tells all. No offense, but guys tend to all act alike regarding sex for the most part, whether they're looking just to get laid or looking for something more. Sex itself tells me nothing about his intentions.
My "creeper" radar is on high alert after the whole stalker guy incident, and I honestly don't get an off feeling over this guy. If anything, he's the most even-keeled healthy relationship prospect I've had in 4 years. I do think he's very excited to have clicked with someone as well, and feel like we're both in the same boat. I think that's what spurred the whole sleeping over thing. For the record, I don't think I'll be ready to sleep over for quite a few more weeks, at least.
I'm just learning, jm! Help a girl out! lol
After reading this, now I am not so scared...lol. Having been completely torched by my exwife I tend to hang out on the very cautious end of the spectrum....I understand I may be a little too protective at times. I have much to learn myself. Have fun Sunday night!
Awww, it's nice to be protected
I don't really talk to my friends about this stuff because they're all married with kids, and to them, dating is "kid's stuff" because they haven't done it for so long. So you guys are my only outlet!
I admit I'm crazy sometimes, but I'm a work in progress!
This is why I love that we have our own resident man on the board! Its always nice to hear the other side's point of view.
Best of luck Chasing Emmii!